Psychology Quotes 51 to 100

51. ‘In conclusion: we have problems perceiving non-events. We are blind to what does not exist. We realize if there is a war, but we do not appreciate the absence of war during peacetime. If we are healthy, we rarely think about being sick.’ Rolf Dobelli

52. ‘The sunk cost fallacy is most dangerous when we have invested a lot of time, money, energy or love in something. This investment becomes a reason to carry on, even if we are dealing with a lost cause. The more we invest, the greater the sunk costs are, and the greater the urge to continue becomes.’ Rolf Dobelli

53. ‘We have a deep desire to be known and to know others.’ Dr. Bill Donahue

54. ‘In some ways, humans are like monkeys. Once you see food on the table, your brains begin to crave for them, even though you are not hungry. Once you eat it, you will feel a rush of pleasure as the craving is satisfied. It’s humiliating, but that’s how habits work.’ Wolfram Schultz

55. ‘A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately happy. What a man can be, he must be.’ Abraham Maslow, on fulfilment

56. ‘Although people may think they become more attractive when they become intoxicated, other [sober] people don’t think that” Professor Brad Bushman

57. ‘People have long observed that drunk people think others are more attractive but ours is the first study to find that drinking makes people think they are more attractive themselves. If you become drunk and think you are really attractive it might influence your thoughts and behaviour towards others. It illustrates that in human memory, the link between alcohol and attractiveness is pretty strong.” Professor Brad Bushman

58. ‘Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” Unknown

59. ‘Western culture has things a little backwards right now, we think that if we had every comfort available to us, we’d be happy. We equate comfort with happiness. And now we’re so comfortable we’re miserable. There’s no struggle in our lives, no sense of adventure. We get in a car, we get in an elevator. It all comes easy. What I’ve found is that I’m never more alive than when I’m pushing and I’m in pain. And I’m struggling for high achievement and in that struggle there’s a magic.’ Dean Karnazes

60. ‘The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.’ Jack London

61. ‘Deep sleep sounds restful, but during it our brains are actually working hard. One of the main things the brain is doing is moving memories from short-term storage into long-term storage, allowing us more short-term memory space for the next day. If you don’t get adequate deep sleep then these memories will be lost.’ Michael Mosley

62. ‘We have made altruism a sacred object, so we’ve been blinded to its deleterious effects. There’s a misguided view that empathy is a universal solvent. Helping others is often about your own narcissism. What you think people need is often not actually what they need.’ Barbara Oakley

63. ‘What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded…sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly.’ George Saunders

64. ‘Still, accomplishment is unreliable. “Succeeding,” whatever that might mean to you, is hard, and the need to do so constantly renews itself (success is like a mountain that keeps growing ahead of you as you hike it), and there’s the very real danger that “succeeding” will take up your whole life, while the big questions go untended.’ George Saunders

65. ‘And this is actually O.K. If we’re going to become kinder, that process has to include taking ourselves seriously – as doers, as accomplishers, as dreamers. We have to do that, to be our best selves.’ George Saunders

66. ‘Do all the other things, the ambitious things – travel, get rich, get famous, innovate, lead, fall in love, make and lose fortunes, swim naked in wild jungle rivers (after first having it tested for monkey poop) – but as you do, to the extent that you can, err in the direction of kindness.’ George Saunders

67. ‘But when procrastinators plan, they like to do it in a vague way that doesn’t consider details or reality too closely, and their planning leaves them perfectly set up to not actually accomplish anything. A procrastinator’s planning session leaves him with a doer’s nightmare: A big list of icky, daunting tasks and undertakings.’ WaitButWhy Blog

68. ‘A big list is perhaps an early phase of planning, but planning must end with rigorous prioritizing and one item that emerges as the winner—the item you’re going to make your first priority. And the item that wins should be the one that means the most to you—the item that’s most important for your happiness. If urgent items are involved, those will have to come first and should be knocked out as quickly as possible in order to make way for the important items (procrastinators love to use unimportant but urgent items as an excuse to forever put off the important ones).’ WaitButWhy Blog

69. ‘To un-icky the item, you need to read, research, and ask questions to find out exactly how one learns how to code, the specific means necessary for each step along the way, and how long each one should take.’ WaitButWhy Blog

70. ‘No one “builds a house.” They lay one brick again and again and again and the end result is a house. Procrastinators are great visionaries—they love to fantasize about the beautiful mansion they will one day have built—but what they need to be are gritty construction workers, who methodically lay one brick after the other, day after day, without giving up, until a house is built.’ WaitButWhy Blog

71. ‘Nearly every big undertaking can be boiled down to a core unit of progress—its brick. A 45-minute gym visit is the brick of getting in great shape. A 30-minute practice session is the brick of becoming a great guitarist.’ WaitButWhy Blog

72. ‘So this diagram represents the challenge at hand anytime you take on a task, whether it’s making a PowerPoint for work, going on a jog, working on a script, or anything else you do in your life. The Critical Entrance is where you go to officially start work on the task, the Dark Woods are the process of actually doing the work, and once you finish, you’re rewarded by ending up in The Happy Playground—a place where you feel satisfaction and where leisure time is pleasant and rewarding because you got something hard done. You occasionally even end up super-engaged with what you’re working on and enter a state of flow, where you’re so blissfully immersed in the task that you lose track of time.’ WaitButWhy Blog

73. ‘The first thing you must do is make it through the Critical Entrance. This means stopping whatever you’re doing when it’s time to begin the task, putting away all distractions, and getting started. It sounds simple, but this is the hardest part. This is where the Instant Gratification Monkey puts up his fiercest resistance.’ WaitButWhy Blog

74. ‘It makes no sense to leave the Dark Woods in favor of the Dark Playground—they’re both dark. They both suck to be in, but the big difference is the Dark Woods leads to happiness and the Dark Playground leads only to more misery. But the Instant Gratification Monkey isn’t logical and to him, the Dark Playground seems like much more fun.’ WaitButWhy Blog

75. ‘The other thing that might happen when you pass the Tipping Point, depending on the type of task and how well it’s going, is that you might start feeling fantastic about what you’re working on, so fantastic that continuing to work sounds like much more fun than stopping to do leisure activities. You’ve become obsessed with the task and you lose interest in basically everything else, including food and time. This is not only a blissful feeling, it’s usually when you do great things.’ WaitButWhy Blog

76. ‘Start by thinking about the terms we’ve used in these posts, and if they resonated with you, write them down. Part of the reason I assigned terms to so many of these feelings or phenomena—the Instant Gratification Monkey, the Rational Decision-Maker, the Panic Monster, the Dark Playground, Ickiness, Bricks, the Critical Entrance, the Dark Woods, the Tipping Point, the Happy Playground, Flow, your Storyline—is that terms help you clarify the reality of the choices you’re making. It helps expose bad choices and highlights when it’s most critical to make good ones.’ WaitButWhy Blog

77. ‘Lock yourself into something—put down a non-refundable deposit for lessons or a membership.’ WaitButWhy Blog

78. ‘In the same way a great achievement happens unglorious brick by unglorious brick, a deeply-engrained habit like procrastination doesn’t change all at once, it changes one modest improvement at a time. Remember, this is all about showing yourself you can do it, so the key isn’t to be perfect, but to simply improve. The author who writes one page a day has written a book after a year. The procrastinator who gets slightly better every week is a totally changed person a year later.’ WaitButWhy Blog

79. ‘Because defeating procrastination is the same thing as gaining control over your own life. So much of what makes people happy or unhappy—their level of fulfillment and satisfaction, their self-esteem, the regrets they carry with them, the amount of free time they have to dedicate to their relationships—is severely affected by procrastination. So it’s worthy of being taken dead seriously, and the time to start improving is now.’ WaitButWhy Blog

80. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

81. ‘There are certainly some related concepts between chess and investing, such as the ability to quickly recognize patterns, and the discipline of being hyper-rational in evaluating the strength of your position.’ Boaz Weinstein

82. ‘The real author writes a couple pages a day, laying a brick, and the wannabe author writes nothing. 98% of their day is otherwise identical. But a year later, the real author has a completed first draft of a book and the wannabe author has…nothing.’ (from a random blog)

83. ‘It can’t be helped. There is a small minority of our population (of any population) of which 3 to 4% of the people have personality disorders. They are the people who can’t relate to other people, who don’t care about other people. So they will always be doing these kind of things.’ Liak Teng Lit on the problem of high-rise littering in SG

84. ‘While the genetic influence is slightly more than 50%, that still leaves a massive role for environmental factors. What this research does is show that complex traits like intelligence are not the product of one or two simple genes. Rather it is managed by an intricate process that relies on genetic factors and environmental influences. The nature-nurture debate is not over yet.’ Dr Simon Underdown

85. ‘I compare (with others) only in order to gain, in order to achieve, in order to become. But when I don’t compare, I am beginning to understand what I am. Beginning to understand what I am is far more fascinating, far more interesting. It goes beyond all the stupid comparison. To understand yourself is the beginning of wisdom.’ Jiddu Krishnamurti

86. ‘As you look forward to something good that is about to happen, you experience some of the same joy you would in the moment. The major difference is that the joy can last much longer.’ Laura Vanderkam

87. ‘What good have I done today?’ Benjamin Franklin, on tracking self-improvement on a daily basis

88. “I want happiness! I want happiness! First, remove ‘I’, that’s ego. Next, remove ‘want’, that’s desire. Now all you are left with is happiness!” Buddha

89. ‘People usually forget 90% of what they learn in a class within 30 days. The majority of this forgetting occurs within the first few hours after class. This has been robustly confirmed in modern times.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

90. ‘They call the snow leopard the ghost cat. Never lets itself be seen. Beautiful things don’t ask for attention.’ – The Secret Life of Walter Mitty –

91. ‘One of the greatest predictors of performance in school turns out to be the emotional stability of the home.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

92. ‘The bottom line is that sleep loss means mind loss. Sleep loss hurts attention, executive function, immediate memory, working memory, mood, quantitative skills, logical reasoning, ability and general math knowledge.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

93. ‘Emily (a toddler) has been playing with a washcloth and a cup. She covers the cup with the cloth, and then pauses for a second, a concerned look on her brow. Slowly she pulls the cloth away from the cup. The cup is still there!’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

94. ‘Andy Meltzoff rocked the world of infant psychology by sticking out his tongue at a newborn and waited for a response. What he found astonished him. The baby stuck her tongue back out at him.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

95. ‘Babies are born with a deep desire to understand the world around them and an incessant curiosity that compels them to aggressively explore it.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

96. ‘There are no easy answers to life’s challenges. The quest to find happiness and meaning in life is not new. Humans have been pondering the reason for our existence for thousands of years.’ Clayton Christensen (How will you measure your life)

97. ‘Survivorship bias means this: people systematically overestimate their chances of success. Guard against it by frequently visiting the graves of once-promising projects, investments and careers. It is a sad walk, but one that should clear your mind.’ Rolf Dobelli

98. ‘A charming woman marries a fairly average man. But because her parents were awful people, the ordinary man appears to be a prince.’ Rolf Dobelli

99. ‘Fend it off by spending time with people who think differently than you think – people whose experiences and expertise are different than yours. We require others’ inputs to overcome the availability bias.’ Rolf Dobelli

100. ‘If you ever find yourself in a tight, unanimous group, you must speak your mind, even if your team does not like it. Question tacit assumptions, even if you risk expulsion from the warm nest.’ Rolf Dobelli, on how to prevent groupthink

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