Psychology Quotes 101 to 150

101. “We make complex decisions by consulting our feelings, not our thoughts. Against our best intentions, we substitute the question, ‘What do I think about this?’ with ‘How do I feel about this?’ So, smile! Your future depends on it.” Rolf Dobelli

102. “Imagine being in calculus class on your first day and the teacher being at the board writing an equation, and you look at it and think ‘Wow, that’s the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen,’ which some people do. For those people to go home and do two hours of calculus homework is thrilling, whereas for the rest of us it’s beyond a chore and more like a nightmare. Those that have done the two hours’ practice come in the following day and everything is easier than it is for those who didn’t enjoy it in the first place and didn’t do the two hours’ homework.” Malcolm Gladwell

103. ‘If I cannot fly, let me sing.’ Stephen Sondheim

104. ‘The brain is a failure machine. When you’re born, you have about all the neurons you’ll ever have. When you’re four, you have pretty much all the connections between those neurons you’ll ever have. Then the brain starts pruning. The brain starts shrinking. When the brain is shrinking, you’re actually learning by failure.’ Jeff Stibel

105. ‘Self-handicapping means deliberately doing things that will hamper their performance in order to give themselves an excuse for not doing well.’ Megan McArdle

106. ‘Sunk cost fallacy is why so many people eat awful meals, watch horrible movies, read terrible books, and suffer through dreadful relationships.’ Megan McArdle

107. ‘One of the keys to failing well is identifying the fact that you’ve failed, and correcting what you’re doing…But it’s not always so obvious when you’re the one making the mistake.’ Megan McArdle

108. ‘But there’s a danger in forming a theory: you get invested in it, and then you start to look for reasons why it may be true, rather than evidence that it might be false.’ Megan McArdle

109. ‘Way of the Shark: keep moving, or die.’ Megan McArdle

110. ‘If you want to teach a puppy not to do something, you need to catch him at it, and punish him immediately; if you punish him later, he will not connect the action with the punishment.’ Megan McArdle

111. ‘People who believe that they can control their fate are more likely to have happy futures even if they’re wrong about the extent of their control.’ Megan McArdle

112. ‘A good runner leaves no tracks. A good speaker has no flaws to censure. A good computer had no tallies. A good door is well shut without bolts and cannot be opened. A good knot is tied without rope and cannot be loosened.’ Lao Tzu (道德经)

113. ‘We’re all a little weird and life’s a little weird. And when we find someone who’s weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness called love.’ Dr Seuss

114. ‘If you don’t pay enough, you can lose people. But beyond that, money is not a motivator. What matters are these other features.’ Mike Cannon-Brookes

115. ‘Studies show that a person who is interrupted takes 50% longer to accomplish a task. Not only that, he or she makes up to 50% more errors.’ John Medina (Brain Rules)

116. ‘Hermann also showed that one could increase the life span of a memory simply by repeating the information in timed intervals. The more repetition cycles a given memory experienced, the more likely it was to persist in his mind.’ John Medina

117. ‘If you have only one week to study for a final exam, and only 10 times when you can work on the subject, it is better to space out the 10 repetitions during the week than to squeeze them all together.’ Dan Schacter

118. ‘If I want it, it is mine. If I give it to you and change my mind later, it is mine. If I can take it away from you, it is mine. If we are building something together, all of the pieces are mine. If it looks just like mine, it is mine. If it is mine, it will never belong to anybody else, no matter what. If it is yours, it is mine.’ John Medina, on babies mentality

119. ‘Catch 22 – All your options lead to the same frustrating outcome. Whatever you do, you cannot win. You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.’

120. ‘Although you don’t have much direct control over your feelings, you can directly control your actions. This realization will have important practical applications later because when it comes to making important decisions in your life, it’s far more useful to focus on what you can control rather than on what you can’t.’ Russ Harris (The Happiness Trap)

121. ‘I think you do need passion to be happy. It’s just that we don’t know what that passion is. If you ask someone, they’ll tell you what they think they’re passionate about, but they probably have it wrong.’ Pardis Sabeti

122. ‘Exposing them to lots of activities is commendable. You want to help your kids discover something that they truly enjoy doing, and it’s actually critical for them to find something that will motivate them to develop their own processes.’ Clayton Christensen

123. ‘Our thinking self is a bit like a radio, constantly playing in the background. Most of the time it’s the Radio Doom and Gloom show, broadcasting negative stories 24 hours a day. It reminds us of bad things from the past, it warns us of bad things to come in the future, and it gives us regular updates on everything that’s wrong with us…Unfortunately, there’s no way to switch off this radio. Even Zen masters are unable to achieve such a feat.’ Russ Harris (The Happiness Trap)

124. ‘He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.’ Friedrich Nietzsche

125. ‘At the beginning of each new year, millions of resolutions are made. Fueled by pure hope, they are released into the atmosphere. Following prevailing winds of good intentions, they float toward a bright horizon. Some are destroyed quickly. Others travel great distances, only to lose steam on a sandy beach. Better abandon your resolutions immediately. You don’t want to choke a seagull.’ Unknown

126. ‘Where did the Thing come from? Why did it choose us? We don’t know the answer. But once it arrived, it was here to stay. At first, we paid no attention to the Thing. Then we tried shoving it under a rug. The Thing only seemed to grow bigger. We tried throwing words at the Thing. We consulted experts about the Thing. Our efforts were exhausting, expensive and futile. So we fled when the Thing wasn’t looking. Somehow, the Thing tracked us down. As of now, we’re learning to live with the Thing. We wouldn’t trade our Thing for anyone else’s.’ Unknown

127. ‘Self-reflection is important. But too much can be self-destructive. You may choose to conceal your true self and reveal it only with self-consciousness. It’s better to create a positive self-image and embrace self-expression! This takes self-confidence and self-control. Bu pursuing self-actualization and avoiding self-absorption, you may create something bigger than yourself.’ Grant Snider

128. ‘If you analyze a poem closely, you may destroy it. If you criticize a poem, it will not change its ways. If you approach a poem from a distance, it may elude you completely. If you dissect a poem, be prepared for what you might find inside. If you ignore a poem, it will leave you for someone else. If you return to a poem, it will grow in meaning. If you memorize a poem, you will notice it wherever you go. If you want to understand a poem, throw yourself into its language.’ Mark Strand

129. ‘This year I will be like a tree, rooted in past experience, growing ever outward and upward and with hopes of blossoming into something greater. Striving towards a bright future, well prepared to take on the weight of reality. My resolution cannot be broken.’ Grant Snider

130. ‘And while nobody would ever call reading a “new” method for improving the mind, recent scientific studies have confirmed that reading and intelligence have a relationship so close as to be symbiotic.’ Dan Hurley

131. ‘Employees are vastly more satisfied and productive, it turns out, when four of their core needs are met: physical, through opportunities to regularly renew and recharge at work; emotional, by feeling valued and appreciated for their contributions; mental, when they have the opportunity to focus in an absorbed way on their most important tasks and define when and where they get their work done; and spiritual, by doing more of what they do best and enjoy most, and by feeling connected to a higher purpose at work.’ Tony Schwartz

132. ‘Lacking in lyrics and often considered to be the apex of the craft, classical music is a popular choice for getting things done.’

133. ‘Summary of the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman: 1) words of affirmation; 2) quality time; 3) receiving gifts; 4) acts of service; 5) physical touch. First, learn to identify your own and that of your partner’s. Speak your partner’s love language to keep their emotional love tank full. Request your partner to speak your love language too. Your relationship should improve!

134. ‘Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.’ Gary Chapman (The 5 Love Languages)

135. ‘Generally speaking, if we are kind and loving towards people, they will tend to be kind and loving towards us.’ Gary Chapman (The 5 Love Languages)

136. ‘Intellectual life is ironic because really smart people often do the dumbest things precisely because they are carried away by their own brilliance. Politics is ironic because powerful people make themselves vulnerable because they think they can achieve more than they can.’ David Brooks

137. ‘Marriage is ironic because you are trying to build a pure relationship out of people who are ramshackle and messy. There’s an awesome incongruity between the purity you glimpse in the love and the fact that he leaves used tissues around the house and it drives you crazy.’ David Brooks

138. ‘In buying a book, be influenced by two considerations only. Are you reasonably sure that it is a good book? Have you a desire to possess it? Do not be influenced by the probability of you reading it. After all, one does read a certain proportion of what one buys. And further, instinct counts.’ Arnold Bennett

139. ‘What do you post to Facebook? Pictures of yourself yelling at your kids, or having a hard time at work? No, you post smiling photos of a hiking trip with friends. You build a fake life — or at least an incomplete one — and share it.’ Arthur C. Brooks

140. ‘Have you ever known an alcoholic? They generally drink to relieve craving or anxiety — in other words, to attenuate a source of unhappiness. Yet it is the drink that ultimately prolongs their suffering.’ Arthur C. Brooks

141. ‘What is unhappiness? Your intuition might be that it is simply the opposite of happiness, just as darkness is the absence of light. That is not correct. Happiness and unhappiness are certainly related, but they are not actually opposites.’ Arthur C. Brooks

142. ‘Lord, give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed, the serenity to accept the things which cannot be changed, and the wisdom to know the difference.’ Alcoholic Anonymous prayer

143. ‘Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.’ Viktor Frankl

144. ‘It’s the same when you truly accept your uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. You don’t have to like them, want them, or approve of them; you simply make peace with them and let them be. This leaves you free to focus your energy on taking action – action that moves your life forward in a direction you value.’ Russ Harris

145. ‘The thinking self is rather like a time machine: it continually pulls us into the future and the past. We spend a huge amount of time worrying about, planning for, or dreaming of the future, and a huge amount of time rehashing the past.’ Russ Harris

146. ‘The observing self is incapable of boredom. It registers everything it observes with openness and interest. It’s only the thinking self that gets bored, because boredom is basically a thought process: a story that life would be more interesting and more fulfilling if we were doing something else. The thinking self is easily bored because it thinks it already knows it all.’ Russ Harris

147. ‘We let our judgments, complaints, and criticisms come and go like passing cars, and we fully engage in the present moment. When we are mindful of our own thoughts, we can see them for what they are and let them go. When we are mindful of our feelings, we can make room for them and let them be. And when we are mindful of our here-and-now experience, we are deeply connected with it.’ Russ Harris

148. ‘If prisoners could connect with something they valued, such as a loving relationship with their children or an important book they wished to write, that connection gave them something to live for, something that made it worthwhile to endure all that suffering. Those that could not connect with a deeper value soon lost the will to live.’ Russ Harris

149. ‘We go through life following the same routine, day after day. But in order to create a rich, full, and meaningful life, we need to stop to reflect on what we’re doing and why we’re doing it.’ Russ Harris

150. ‘We end up going through life wearing a mask, trying to hide who we are – putting on a show in order to win approval, love, or friendship.’ Russ Harris

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