The Game By Neil Strauss

I could not become anything: Neither bad nor good, neither a scoundrel nor an honest man, neither a hero nor an insect. And now I am eking out my days in my corner, taunting myself with the bitter and entirely useless consolation that an intelligent man cannot seriously become anything; that only a fool can become something. – Fyodor Dostoevsky

Step 1: Select a Target. It is always attractive to see someone who exudes confidence. The book tracks the lives of two people, Mr Mystery and Mr Style. There are workshops solely designed for picking up women. A pickup artist must not do what everyone else does. The key tactics is to smile. Mr Style is your average frustrated chump (AFC). Mr Style wanted to hang out with pickup artist, Mr Mystery.

Step 2: Approach and Open. Don’t let your emotions get in your way when playing the game. The basic format is FMAC, Find, Meet, Attract and Close. Don’t try to approach women who are alone. A neg is when you try to resist a woman’s charm by pretending to be disinterested. This will cause her to lower her self-esteem. Important characteristics for a guy include being well-groomed, having a sense of humor and good with connecting with people. Peacock theory is that to attract the most desirable females, you have to stand out in a colorful way. To a group ‘Hey, it looks like the party’s over here.’ To the girl you like ‘If I wasn’t gay, you’d be so mine.’ This is an example of a camouflage opener. 3 second rule. You only have 3 seconds to speak to a girl after you notice her. Never approach from the direct front or back, always from the side. Kino is when you touch a girl. Isolate her. Look out for IOI (Indicators of Interest) She asks for your name, asks if you are single and squeezes your hand. These are examples of IOI. Cover every contingency. When you ask for a kiss and she turns you down, say ‘I didn’t say you could.’ ‘The secret to meeting women, I realized, is simply knowing what to say, and when and how to say it.’ Cat string theory is when a cat is bored of catching a string once you have released it. You have to be really confident, always think that you are superior to others. (1) Approach instantly; (2) Recite an opener; (3) Open up the group and ignore your target. Pay attention to the men; (4) Use negs; (5) Show your personality or something attractive about yourself; (6) Neg again if appropriate; (7) Ask how they know each other; (8) ‘I’ve sort of been alienating your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?’; (9) Isolate her from the group, hold her hand; (10) Do a rune reading; (11) ‘Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd.’ Neil Strauss; (12) If she starts a sentence with a ‘so’, it’s an IOI; (13) Get her to kiss you. If not possible, exchange numbers and leave. NLP is the use of words, suggestions and physical gestures designed to influence the subconscious. There is a need to handle the alpha male of the group. Anchoring is when you associate a feeling with a touch or gesture. Let her take away something, like a sugar packet. She will remember you even if you get home.

Anything you want from a woman – attraction, lust, fascination – is just an internal process that she runs through her body and her brain. All you need to evoke that process are questions that make her go into her body and brain and actually experience it in order to answer you. Then she will link those feelings of attraction to you. – Ross

Step 3: Demonstrating Value. Mystery and Style were heading to Belgrade next. It’s easier to hit on girls if you are with friends, and not alone. Women like to hear suggestions and metaphors. Demonstrate value. Wear something that will make you stand out from the crowd. Don’t lower your self esteem and think a girl is too good for you. Analyse your actions if you have failed. Shaven heads can be appealing. Example of what should be contained in a bag. ‘1) Pack of Gum; 2) Condom; 3) 1 Pencil; 4) Dryer Lint; 5) Envelope; 6) Digital Camera; 7) Tic Tacs; 8) Cheat Sheet; 9) Wooden Runes; 10) Notebook; 11) Glow in the Dark Necklace; 12) Digital Recorder; 13) Necklaces; 14) Blacklight; 15) Colognes; 16) Magic Tricks. ‘Women can instantly spot insincerity and bullshit.’. Don’t approach from the back. Approach from the side. If there are two girls, approach the one you are less interested in first. Don’t treat women as instruments in the game. Impress girls by learning an interesting skill. Learn to accept failure, rejection, pain etc. To get a woman, you have to be willing to risk losing her.

Alcohol has never caused anyone to do something they didn’t want to. It only enables them to do what they’ve always wanted but repressed. – Neil Strauss

Step 4: Disarm the Obstacle. There are many ways to get a woman. These include subliminal language, social dynamics, humor, arrogance, or just like a physical animal. Look out for IOIs. Muster the courage to do something ridiculous. People usually appreciate things when they work for it. Talking fast is a sign of lack of confidence. Some PAC don’t believe in pick-up lines. One can start with ‘How are you?’ Don’t interrogate the other person. It is crucial to listen. PACs have their own tricks which are basically trade secrets. It helps to be very organized. Improve yourself to such an extent that women want to be with you. One tactic is to make it seem like you know the person for a long time. ‘You’re kinda cute. I think I’m going to call you.’ Even if you don’t get a waitress number, it is still possible to build rapport from the numerous conversations with her. If she mentions about you to her other friends, that’s even better. Lol. ‘Become an expert in how to feel good.’

There is no such thing as fear. Emotions are just energy and motion that you trap inside your body because of a thought. – Rasputin

How do you make someone want something? You give it value. You show that others like it. You make it scarce. And you make them work for it. – David DeAngelo

If they try to repel my advances, I act like they are from Mars and what they are saying doesn’t make any sense. – Mystery

Step 5: Isolate the target. When you’re good, people will look for you. Appearance matters. Playing hard to get can work sometimes. One trick is not to reveal yourself. Let the girl ask for your name. Go in for the kill. Isolate. ‘Two steps forward, one step back’. After a while, it’s addiction. Don’t overdo it, or else you won’t be attracted to women genuinely. Don’t let others copy you. Proximity alert system. Girls who stand near you want to be opened up. Be careful when you quit running your business. It could have implications on your stakeholders. Serious implications.

Whoever destroys a single life is as guilty as though he had destroyed the entire world; and whoever rescues a single life earns as much merit as though he had rescued the entire world. – Unknown

I’ve come to understand that without commitment, you cannot have depth in anything, whether it’s a relationship, a business, or a hobby. – Sweater (Pick Up Artist)

There is nothing more bonding that successfully picking up girls together. It is the basis for a great friendship. Because afterward, when the girls are gone, you can finally give each other the high 5 that you’ve been holding back since you met them. It is the sweetest high 5 in the world. It’s not just the sound of skin hitting skin; it’s the sound of brotherhood. – Style

We have this idea that love is supposed to last forever. But love isn’t like that. It’s a free-flowing energy that comes and goes when it pleases. Sometimes it stays for life; other times it stays for a second, a day, a month, or a year. So don’t fear love when it comes simply because it makes you vulnerable. But don’t be surprised when it leaves, either. Just be glad you had the opportunity to experience it. – Style

Step 6: Create an Emotional Connection. Women were no longer a challenge. They were a pleasure. A woman has great physical needs. Conduct the ‘best friends’ test. Be the most interesting person in the room. Mystery snapped out of depression. He was back in the game. Keep up to the new methods. Tyler Durden and Papa were the up and coming PAC. AMOG. Don’t reveal every concept to your students. Style finally got to meet Tom Cruise.

People used to look out on the playground and say that the boys were playing soccer and the girls were doing nothing. But the girls were’nt doing nothing – They were talking. They were talking about the world to one another. And they became very expert about that in a way the boys did not. – Carol Gilligan

Step 7: Extract to a Seduction Location. Tom Cruise is a cult of scientology. Style wanted to channel his energies into something more constructive. He wanted a life where women approached him. It was Project Hollywood. It was a mansion concept. This was the seduction location. ‘Papa’ picked up Paris Hilton. The cube game, colour, transparency, ladder and horse game. Use the ‘jealous girlfriend’ opening.

Step 8: Pump Buying Temperature. The house had 4 PUAs. This allowed them to franchise and take the project to a bigger scale. ‘The world is what you think it is.’ ‘The less you appear to be trying, the better you do.’ Style was even good enough to make dual inducing massages work. Be wary when others start to follow your pick up tactics. Tyler Durden never forgiven Style for making out with his target. Mystery’s Dad died. Avoid picking up girls too much, or else you will turn into a social robot. Style got to mean Britney Spears.

Step 9: Make a Physical Connection. Katya, unlike most females, knew the rules of the game. Mating is largely a game of chance. Mystery ended up falling for her charm. Mystery proposed to Katya, despite only knowing her for 3 weeks. Mystery fluffed his act subsequently, he didn’t know to maintain and stay in a proper relationship. Courtney Love came back for Mystery now. Katya was pregnant and went for abortion subsequently. The relationship with Mystery wasn’t going to work. Courtney had to go to court because she did drugs. Now, Herbal was falling for Katya. The people at Project Hollywood didn’t know about feelings for a relationship. It was tearing them apart.

All we had figured out were a few simple cause and effect relationships. If you lower a woman’s self-esteem, she will seek validation from you. If you make a woman jealous, she will become more attracted to you. – Unknown

A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others. – Wizard to the Tin Man

Step 10: Blast last minute resistance. PUAs fear women. Weird girls started visiting the Mansion and think that they stayed in it. Style tried to hit on Courtney’s guitarist. Unlike most girls, Lisa wasn’t interested in having a one night stand. Alcohol is like a truth serum. All the ten-night stands and threesomes in the world wouldn’t be enough to get me over my breakup. Fantasy is not reality, although we often think it is.

Simply finding out that you have a passion for something another person also likes and respects is enough to fire that strange emotion we like to call chemistry. Scientists studying pheromones claim that when two people discover they have things in common, pheromones are released and attraction begins. – Unknown

Step 11: Manage Expectations. A house meeting was called to resolve conflict between Mystery and Herbal. Bros before hoes. Project Hollywood was doomed to fail. The solution was to drive Mystery out. Mystery was a broken man. He fucked up. Lisa was different. She didn’t fall to pick up lines. Mystery left the house and found a new girl he liked. Lisa was super confident. Ultimately sarging gets you nowhere as it is hard to develop serious relationships for someone. Some PUAs started ignoring Style as they saw him as a threat. ‘The worshippers were smashing their idols.’ Everyone thought of ways to get Mystery and Style out of the house. Style eventually quit the game and left Project Hollywood.

And though I’ve learned everything there is about attraction, seduction, and courtship in the past 2 years, I learned nothing about maintaining a healthy relationship. Being together has required a lot more time and work than learning to pick up women ever did, but it has brought me far greater satisfaction and joy. Perhaps that’s because it is not a game. – Style

Sometimes it stops being casual (sex). People develop a desire for something more. And when one person’s expectations don’t match the other person’s, then whoever holds the highest expectations suffers. There is no such thing as cheap sex. It always comes with a price. – Unknown

If there was anything I’d learned, it’s that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him. – Unknown



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