These Foolish Things by Yeo Wei Wei

Yuan was waiting for her husband to return from work. The weather was incredibly bad and it was pouring heavily. Danny failed to close the windows before leaving the house and the rainwater entered their home. They lived on a 20 floor apartment, above the Kallang River. The city was very modern as compared to the 1950s. They could watch the NDP fireworks from their home. Danny and her were married for 3 years. Later, Danny enters the house with another woman. His arms were around her waist. Yuan was tormented by this sight and how Danny was treating her. Danny liked to simply ignore everything she said.

Yuan was heading to Phuket alone. They were conversing in the living room. It was 26 Dec 2004 and the tsunami hit in Phuket. Oliver, the man she was with now, had drowned. He was a divorcee and was a father of 2 children. There were little signs of life after the tsunami. A jazz singer’s voice reminded Yuan of the past. It was a year since the tsunami and life in Phuket was returning to normal. Yuan returned to her villa and saw a couple’s luggage tags. The couple were named Gavin and Julie Ng and they stayed at the same apartment where Yuan used to stay. This further triggered her memory of the past.

Assia touched Julie’s umbrella and saw a hantu inside the umbrella. She was the domestic helper in the house. Gavin couldn’t find his car keys. Tom was their son and Gavin’s passport was missing too. Assia was tired because the couple were very strict towards her. Julia and her friend, Fern, were chatting while their husbands were away. Fern was now married to Danny.

The scene now flashes to the scene where Yuan confronts Danny about the woman he brought home. The lady turned out to be Fern. As Danny tried to get rid of Yuan’s possessions, he found that he paralyzed and that he couldn’t move. Danny managed to crawl and went to the kitchen to find a tin box of dried sage leaves. He lights a leaf and then extinguishes it. Then, he scurrying around the room like a lizard. He enters Yuan’s room and examines her possessions. He missed Yuan. The burnt leaf had a scene of Gardenia and it reminded him of Yuan. He tried to imagine her being with him, but the moment was fleeting at best. Danny was deeply distraught and felt an acute sense of loss. It was then that Fern clutched him and Danny said longingly, ‘Fern, my love’.

Gardenia perfume lingering on the pillow…wild strawberries only seven francs a kilo…and still my heart has wings…These foolish things remind me of you. – Jazz Singer

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Fiction quotes 51 to 100

  1. How could you make an appeal to the future when not a trace of you, not even an anonymous word scribbled on a piece of paper, could physically survive? – George Orwell (1984)
  2. Don’t you see that the whole aim of Newspeak is to narrow the range of thought? In the end we shall make thoughtcrime literally impossible, because there will be no words in which to express it. Every concept that can ever be needed will be expressed by exactly one word, with its meaning rigidly defined and all its subsidiary meanings rubbed out and forgotten. – Syme
  3. When you make love you’re using up energy; and afterwards you feel happy and don’t give a damn for anything. They can’t bear you to feel like that. They want you to be bursting with energy all the time. All this marching up and down and cheering and waving flags is simply sex gone sour? If you’re happy inside yourself, why should you get excited about Big Brother? – Julia
  4. It would not have occurred to her that an action which is ineffectual thereby becomes meaningless. If you loved someone, you loved him, and when you had nothing else to give, you still gave him love. – George Orwell
  5. By comparison with that existing today, all the tyrannies of the past were half-hearted and inefficient. The ruling groups were always infected to some extent by liberal ideas, and were content to leave loose ends everywhere…Part of the reason for this was that in the past no government had the power to keep its citizens under constant surveillance. The invention of print, however, made it easier to manipulate public opinion, and the film and the radio carried the process further. With the development of television, and the technical advance which made it possible to receive and transmit simultaneously on the same instrument, private life came to an end. – George Orwell
  6. Indeed, so long as the masses are not permitted to have standards of comparison, they never even become aware that they are oppressed. – George Orwell
  7. Big Brother is infallible and all-powerful. Every success, every achievement, every victory, every scientific discovery, all knowledge, all wisdom, all happiness, all virtue, are held to issue directly from his leadership and inspiration. Nobody has ever seen Big Brother. He is a face on the hoardings, a voice on the telescreen. – George Orwell
  8. And since the Party is in full control of the records, and in equally full control of the minds of its members, it follows that the past is whatever the Party chooses to make it. It also follows that though the past is alterable, it never has been altered in any specific instance. For when it has been recreated in whatever shape is needed at the moment, then this new version in the past, and no different past can ever have existed. – George Orwell
  9. The Party seeks power entirely for its own sake. We are not interested in the good of others; we are interested solely in power. Not wealth or luxury or long life or happiness; only power, pure power. What pure power means you will understand presently…We know that no one every seizes power with the intention of relinquishing it. Power is not a means; it is an end. One does not establish a dictatorship in order to safeguard a revolution; one makes the revolution in order to establish the dictatorship. – O’Brien to Winston
  10. How does one man assert his power over another? By making him suffer. Obedience is not enough. Unless he is suffering, how can you be sure that he is obeying your will and not his own? Power is in inflicting pain and humiliation…Progress in our world will be progress towards more pain. The old civilizations claimed that they were founded on love or justice. Ours is founded upon hatred. In our world there will be no emotions except fear, rage, triumph and self-abasement. – O’Brien to Winston
  11. When given the choice between being right or being kind, choose kind. – Dr Wayne W. Dyer (Wonder by R.J. Palacio)
  12. What’s cool about really little kids is that they don’t say stuff to try to hurt your feelings, even though sometimes they do say stuff that hurt your feelings. But they don’t actually know what they’re saying. – P.J. Palacio (Wonder)
  13. It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers. – James Thurber
  14. Who we are! What kind of people are we? What kind of person are you? Isn’t that the most important thing of all? Isn’t that the kind of question we should be asking ourselves all the time? What kind of person am I? – Mr Browne, a teacher (Wonder by R.J. Palacio)
  15. The things we do are the most important things of all. They are more important than what we say or what we look like. The things we do outlast our mortality. The things we do are like monuments that people build to honor heroes after they’ve died. – August (Wonder by R.J. Palacio)
  16. There are always going to be jerks in this world, son. But I really believe, and Daddy really believes, that there are more good people on this earth than bad people, and the good people watch out for each other and take care of each other…sometimes people surprise us… – August’s mum
  17. But the best way to measure how much you’ve grown isn’t by inches or the number of laps you can now run around the track, or even your grade point average- though those things are important, to be sure. It’s what you’ve done with your time, how you’ve chosen to spend your days, and whom you have touched this year. That, to me, is the greatest measure of success. – Mr Tushman, the school principal
  18. What a marvelous line, isn’t it? Kinder than is necessary. Because it’s not enough to be kind. One should be kinder than needed. Why I love that line, that concept, is that it reminds me that we carry with us, as human beings, not just the capacity to be kind, but the very choice of happiness. And what does that mean? How is that measured? You can’t use a yardstick. It’s like I was saying just before: it’s not like measuring how much you’ve grown in a year. It’s not exactly quantifiable, is it? How do we know we’ve been kind? What is being kind, anyway? – Mr Tushman, the school principal
  19. Children, what I want to impart to you today is an understanding of the value of that simple thing called kindness. And that’s all I want to leave you with today. – Mr Tushman, the school principal
  20. I want you to take away the knowledge that, in the future you make for yourselves, anything is possible. If every single person in this room made it a rule that wherever you are, whenever you can, you will try to act a little kinder than is necessary- the world really would be a better place. – Mr Tushman, the school principal
  21. The strength of one’s courage. Kindness. Friendship. Character. These are the qualities that define us as human beings, and propel us, on occasion, to greatness. – Mr Tushman, the school principal
  22. Greatness lies not in being strong, but in the right using of strength…He is the greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts by the attraction of his own. – Mr Tushman
  23. Do all the good you can, By all the means you can, In all the ways you can, At all the times you can, To all the people you can, As long as you ever can. – John Wesley’s Rule
  24. Last night I thought about all that kerosene I’ve used to burn books in the past 10 years. And I thought about books. And for the first time I realized that a man was behind each one of the books. A man had to think them up. A man had to take a long time to put them down on papers. It took some man a lifetime maybe to put some of his thoughts down. – Montag (Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury)
  25. I sometimes think drivers don’t know what grass is, or flowers, because they never see them slowly. If you showed a driver a green blur, he’d say that’s grass. A pink blur? That’s a rose garden! White blurs are houses. Brown blurs are cows…Isn’t that funny, and sad, too? – Clarisse (Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury)
  26. There must be something in books, things we can’t imagine, to make a woman stay in a burning house; there must be something there. You don’t stay for nothing. – Montag
  27. But, how can I leave myself alone? We need not to be let alone. We need to be really bothered once in a while. How long is it since you were really bothered? About something important, about something real? – Montag, on self-reflection
  28. We must all be alike. Not everyone born free and equal, as the Constitution says, but everyone made equal. Each man the image of every other; then all are happy, for there are no mountains to make them cower, to judge themselves against. A book is a loaded gun in the house next door. Burn it. Take the shot from the weapon. Breach man’s mind. – Beatty
  29. …The home environment can undo a lot you try to do at school. That’s why we’ve lowered the kindergarten age year after year until now we’re almost snatching them from the cradle. – Beatty
  30. You can’t build a house without nails and wood. If you don’t want a house built, hide the nails and wood. If you don’t want a man unhappy politically, don’t give him two sides to a question to worry him; give him one. Better yet, give him none. Let him forget there is such a thing as war. – Beatty
  31. Cram them full of noncombustible data, chock them so damned full of ‘facts’ they feel stuffed, but absolutely ‘brilliant’ with information. Then they’ll feel they’re thinking, they’ll get a sense of motion without moving…Don’t give them any slippery stuff like philosophy and sociology to tie things up with. That way lies melancholy. – Beatty
  32. It is because we’re having so much fun at home we’ve forgotten the world? Is it because we’re so rich and the rest of the world’s so poor and we just don’t care if they are? – Montag
  33. So now do you see why books are hated and feared? They show the pores in the face of life. The comfortable people want only wax moon faces, poreless, hairless, expressionless.. Yet somehow we think we can grow, feeding on flowers and fireworks, without completing the cycle back to reality. – Prof Faber
  34. The things you’re looking for are in the world, but the only way the average chap will ever see 99% of them is in a book. – Montag
  35. You’re afraid of making mistakes. Don’t be. Mistakes can be profited by. Man, when I was younger I shoved my ignorance in people’s faces…If you hide your ignorance, no one will hit you and you’ll never learn. – Professor Faber
  36. When the war’s over, perhaps we can be of some use in the world. If not, we’ll just have to wait. We’ll pass the books on to our children, by word of mouth, and let our children wait, in turn, on the other people. A lot will be lost that way, of course. But you can’t make people listen. They have to come round in their own time, wondering what happened and why the world blew up under them It can’t last. – Mr Granger
  37. Everyone must leave something behind when he dies, my grandfather said. A child or a book or a painting or a house or a wall built or a pair of shows made…Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die, and when people look at that tree or that flower you planted, you’re there. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you change something from the way it was before you touched it into something that’s like you after you take your hands away. – Mr Granger
  38. Books were only one type of receptacle where we stored a lot of things we were afraid we might forget. There is nothing magical in them, at all. The magic is only in what books say, how they stitched the patches of the universe together into one garment for us. – Ray Bradbury
  39. They began by controlling books and, of course, films, one way or another, one group or another, political bias, religious prejudice, union pressures, there was always a minority afraid of something, and a great majority afraid of the dark, afraid of the future, afraid of the past, afraid of the present, afraid of themselves and shadows of themselves. – Prof Faber
  40. I believe in having fun first, and along the way, if you teach people, well and good. But I don’t want to set out to influence people. I don’t want to set out to change the world in any self-conscious way. That way leads to self-destruction; that way, you’re pontificating, and that’s dangerous and it’s boring. – Ray Bradbury
  41. I mean it’s not like in the movies where girls like assholes or anything like that. It’s not that easy. They just like a guy that can give them a purpose. Girls like guys to be a challenge. It gives them some mold to fit in how they act. Like a mom. – Patrick to Charlie (The Perks of being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky)
  42. I just need to know that someone out there listens and understand and doesn’t try to sleep with people even if they could have. I need to know that these people exist. – Charlie (The Perks of being a Wallflower)
  43. And in that moment, I swear we were infinite. – Charlie – the perks of being a wallflower –
  44. Why don’t they teach logic in schools? There are only 3 possibilities. Either your sister (Lucy), is telling lies, or she is mad, or she is telling the truth. You know she doesn’t tell lies and it is obvious that she is not mad. For the moment then and unless any further evidence turns up, we must assume that she is telling the truth. – The Professor (The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis)
  45. You know…a lot of kids hate their parents. Some of them got hit. And some of them got caught in the middle of wrong lives. Some of them were trophies for their parents to show the neighbors like ribbons or gold stars. And some of them just wanted to drink in peace. – Charlie (the perks of being a wallflower)
  46. The thing is some girls think they can actually change guys. And what’s funny is that if they actually did change them, they’d get bored. They’d have no challenge left. You just have to give girls some time to think of a new way of doing things, that’s all. Some of them will figure it out here. Some later. Some never. – Patrick to Charlie
  47. You feel really bad, and then it goes away, and you don’t know why. I try to remind myself when I feel great like this that there will be another terrible week coming someday, so I should store up as many great details as I can, so during the next terrible week, I can remember those details and believe that I’ll feel great again. – Charlie
  48. Something like that. I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and then make the choice to share it with other people. – Charlie
  49. It’s great that you can listen and be a shoulder to someone, but what about when someone doesn’t need a shoulder. What if they need the arms or something like that? You can’t just sit there and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can’t. You have to do things. Like take their hands when the slow song comes up for a change. Or be the one who asks someone for a date. Or tell people what you need. Or what you want. – Sam to Charlie
  50. I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. And I’m going to figure out what that is. But right now I’m here with you. And I want to know where you are, what you need, and what you want to do. – Sam to Charlie

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Big Questions from Little People and Simple Answers from Great Minds by Gemma Elwin Harris

Are there any undiscovered animals? Yes, there are plenty. Unknown insects are more common than unknown animals. Most of the unknown animals are located in the depths of the sea.

Is it okay to eat a worm? They might have bad tummies. Do cook before eating. Only eat if you are truly hungry and when there is nothing else left.

What are atoms? They are the building blocks of life. It contains plenty of empty space. There are electrons orbiting around a nucleus and protons. We are all different combination of atoms.

Why are the grown-ups in charge? You have to trust older people as they are more experienced. They make decisions because they love us. If they are wrong, tell them in a nice way.

Why is blood red, not blue? It is because of haemoglobin, which carries oxygen from your lungs around your body. Octopuses, squids etc have blue blood.

How are dreams made? They are more exciting and frightening than real life. They could be a way for the mind to rearrange and tidy itself up after a long day.

How long would it take to walk around the world? It takes 1789 days to run. The people that Rosie Swale-Pope met were simply amazing. Follow your dreams.

Why do we have music? Life would be boring without music. It is rumoured that humans learnt music before speaking. It is pure magic. One can distinguish happy songs from sad songs just by the tune.

Do Aliens Exist? It is possible because the Universe is simply too vast and we do not have full visibility of it. Lighted objects in the sky could be a satellite, a planet etc. One way is to pick up radio signals using satellites.

Where does wind come from? When the Earth gets heated up, warm air will rise and cool air will replace it. Hurricanes occur because air is rushing in too quickly.

Why do we speak English? People have different dialects and accents. Over time, they start speaking in a new way. After prolonged period of time, a new language is formed. About 300 years ago, people in Europe spoke Germanic. However, later, they congregated to England and the Anglo-Saxons spoke English.

Why do dinosaurs go extinct and not other animals? They needed huge amount of food to survive. When the great meteor hit 65 million years ago, it blocked out the light. This caused the plants to die and the dinosaurs to starve. Not every animal perished. Snails and some beetles survived. Dinosaurs are also ancestors of birds in modern times.

Why do cakes taste so nice? The ingredients work well with each other. Butter, sugar and eggs go well together. Flour keeps the mixture together. Anyone can learn how to make a cake!

How do plants and trees grow from a seed? Water, heat and light will cause them to germinate. Water helps to soften the hard seed coat. The seed also contains enough food for the seedling to grow in its initial stages.

Why do monkeys like bananas? They are sweet and tasty. They can also be eaten quickly because they are soft. Fructose gives the monkey enough energy to climb about.

Is the human brain the most powerful thing on Earth? The brain allows us to invent and to think. We can also think about ourselves. However, it may play tricks on us at times. The brain can also over-react sometimes.

What is global warming? It is happening faster than expected. Burning fossil fuels produces a lot of greenhouse gases. As an individual, we can do the following: 1) save energy; 2) recycle; 3) eat locally produced food; 4) Tell others

Why do I get hiccups? It is because of the twitching of your diaphragm. We get them because we drank or ate too quickly. However, the diaphragm will calm down after a while.

Why is space so sparkly? Stars are other ‘Suns’. Some planets appear like a bright spot in the sky. Is there life on these planets? It is for you to uncover!

Why can’t animals talk like us? Bees perform dances. Monkey use special cries. Humans are special because we can always say new things. Humans also do not understand much about animals.

How do story writers get ideas? They could be imaginary people which you wished to meet. These are all figments of your imagination.

How do cars work? The wheels spin. Fuel gets sucked in the engine. It burns the fuel in order to move a shaft. The shaft is then connected with the wheels. The car is an amazing invention.

Why can’t I tickle myself? The brain is always guessing what would happen next. The brain is predicting the next moments in your body. This is useful as it gets us out of difficult situations. ‘If you build a machine that allows you to move a feather, but the feather moves only after a delay of a second, then you can tickle yourself.’

Who had the first pet? It was probably a dog.

Why are planets round? Planets were made from cloud and gas. It is mainly made up of hydrogen and helium. They start pulling more matter due to the G-forces. They keep pulling in all directions. The earth is almost spherical, but not completely.

Can a bee sting a bee? Female bees can still others to defend its hive. A queen honey bee will sting another queen. Bumble bees also sting within their hive to reduce the number of males.

Why do we cook food? This was because fire was discovered. Heat made food enjoyable to eat. It also helps to kill bacteria. It can also change the way food tastes. It is amazing to watch how cooking can change food.

How do you keep going when you are losing in sport? Always strive to be better even if you are not winning. It is more important to set goals and attain them. Winning is hard work.

Why do wars happen? People do not communicate well with one another. Everyone actually wants peace. Governments are frightened. It is difficult to admit that you are in the wrong.

Why do we have to go to the toilet? Wee fills up inside your bladder. The sphincter muscle controls your bladder. The body gets rid of the extra nitrogen. Birds don’t pee, but they release poo. You have to poo to get rid of undigested fibre. It also helps to get rid of your unwanted blood cells. Worn out haemoglobin is brown in colour.

Why do lions roar? It is a way of getting attention. It is a way of showing his pride and dignity.

Why do we have money? In the past, there was barter trade. Humans invented money. It could be exchanged for things that we want. It is a brilliant invention.

Who wrote the first book ever? They were made from wooden sticks. It was a Chinese person and words were written from top to bottom. The first library was present in Egypt.

Why do elephants have trunks? It is very useful and it is also its upper lip. It is incredibly strong, yet delicate. It takes about a year for a baby elephant to learn to use its trunk properly.

Why are some people mean? It is because someone else has done something mean to make them angry. It might feel like a relief to dump it on someone else. It can be a vicious cycle and people can start to avoid them.

How do trees make the air that we breathe? Plants absorb Co2 and convert them to oxygen using photosynthesis. Plants have spores and holes, which allow them to breathe.

If the Universe started from nothing, how did it become something? The Big Bang created time. The Universe is still expanding because of this. Gravity might reverse the expansion of the Universe someday. Our universe could be the collapse of an earlier universe.

Why do people have different coloured skin? Our skin is made up of pigments. Different pigments contain different colours. Dark skin helps to prevent one from contracting cancer.

Will the North and South poles ever melt completely? The South Pole is larger and much thicker. There is an American base there. The ice is melting. This could make the sea levels rise.

Where does ‘Good’ come from? It helps to make the world a better place. Goodness also comes from attitudes. Ancient philosophers have studied this topic. Learn to talk to other people. It all comes from responsible and sensible thinking.

Why is the sun so hot? It is made up of hydrogen particles. Due to fusion, helium is formed.

What is the most endangered animal in the world? It used to be the Pinta Island giant tortoise. The panda is one of them. Conversation efforts can help endangered creatures come back and thrive.

Who do girls have babies and boys don’t? Women have breasts. The woman has a womb. Babies can feed in the womb. The female will lactate and make milk too.

In Victorian times, did kids do all the work? Children had to work hard. They had harsh conditions. The poor didn’t have a chance to be in school.

What is gravity? The bigger the object, the more gravity it exerts on another. Why do you feel weightless in orbit?

Why can’t we live forever? The whole earth would be full of people and there would be a depleted food supply.

How does water get into clouds? You can’t see water vapour. They get lifted up in the air during evaporation. Air gets cooler as it rises and this is how clouds form. This is how rain is formed too.

Why do animals that fly have feathers, not including bats? Dinosaurs used feathers for showing off. Birds have feathers because they are descendants from dinosaurs.

How does my brain control me? The brain is soft and supple. Synapses and brain cells develop and this allows humans to learn. Our brain changes based on the experiences we undergo. We do not have full control over our brain.

How do chefs get ideas for recipes? From markets or all sorts of places. Have fun when you are cooking and learn to experiment.

Are we all related? Yes we are. If you trace back all the way, you might be able to see that we are related somehow, somewhere

How do they know all snowflakes are different? He looked at a snowflake under a microscope. Is it true? Yes, there is some truth in the statement. There are nonillion snowflakes that have fallen.

Why does time go slowly when you want it to go fast? Time passes slowly when you are bored. You start paying attention to every minute that passes. When you are enjoying something, time passes faster. Time is weird.

‘When you have a really boring day doing nothing, when you’re ill, time goes slowly. But when you look back afterwards on that week when you were ill, it feels as though it went by fast. The reason is that you didn’t do anything new so the week won’t occupy much space in your memory, making it seem short when you remember it.’

Who first made metal things? They were probably made thousands of years ago.

How do the bubbles get into fizzy drinks? You have to apply pressure for that to happen. When you release it by opening, bubbles will form again.

Why is the sky blue? It is a trick of the eye. Sunlight gets reflected when it hits gas molecules. Air molecules absorb blue light and reflect it easily as compared to other colours in the UV spectrum.

How do sportspeople concentrate when the crowd is noisy? Focus. Let to block it off and even improve your game.

Do monkeys and chickens have anything in common? They have the same organs and bodily processes. They all descended from the same lizard.

How did we first learn to write? It started in Mesopotamia.

Why can’t I see germs? You need a microscope to see them. There are both useful and bad bacteria. Antibiotics won’t work for viruses.

Do people eat polar bears or lions? It is hard to catch them. They are also ferocious and has sharp claws. Thus, people avoid them

Why does the moon change shape? Everything is moving and rotating and orbiting. It isn’t a spherical disc

Do Numbers Go on Forever? Yes, you can keep adding

What do you have to do to get into the Olympic games? Train hard and never let bad days get you down

Who was the first artist? There are plenty of prehistoric paintings. Some of the early paintings originated from Spain too.

What am I made of? Everything is made up of atoms. Oxygen and carbon are the more important elements. You are really a child of the stars.

Why do penguins live at the south but not the north pole? They are nice and fat and can keep warm. They need to work hard to keep cool in the summer as well. There are also polar bears in the North which can attack them. There are no predators in the Antarctic region. It is beautiful to see them swimming about.

How does an aeroplane fly? The wings are curved and when the wind blows, thrust is created. Jet engines burn kerosene. It’s rather amazing how it flies.

What’s the strongest animal? Bugs are the strongest. A dung beetle is extremely strong.

What would I look like if I didn’t have a skeleton? You would look like a jellyfish or a squid.

Are cows polluting the air? Yes, their stomach contains useful bacteria which helps breakdown the grass into methane gas. Methane is a greenhouse gas.

How do writers think of their ideas? They come mysteriously. However, you must be prepared to write them down. Carry a notebook around with you, this will help. There is nothing wrong being inspired by another writer. Plenty of people have good ideas, but they all stay in your head.

Why do men grow beards and not women? Men undergo puberty. Testosterone helps men grow muscles and grow taller.

Is sugar bad for you? We are programmed to like sweet stuff. Some natural sugars are fine. However, those in manufactured food aren’t good. Do not buy things where sugar is one of the top 3 ingredients contained. It is bad for teeth. A spike in your blood sugar level will leave you more energized, but you might crash after that.

Why is the sky dark at night? It is important to ask questions. It is because the Earth is turning around its axis.

If you’re on a boat with no food or water, what do you do? You could catch fish. Be well prepared on your trip.

How does my cat find its way home? She can remember landmarks or use scent markers. The Earth’s magnetic field may help as well.

What’s inside the world? Rock.

Who is God? He is the creator of the Universe. People disagree over who he really is. He could be a type of force as well. Some people think he doesn’t exist. Maybe God is just a feeling and it depends on the individual. He never gives up on us.

How far away is space? It is 20 miles from your doorstep

Why are some people taller than others? This is because of your DNA.

Why is wee yellow? It contains toxins like nitrogen and ammonia. Ammonia can also clean things and act as fertilizer.

Why do I get bored? ‘Being bored is your body telling you to do something different, so you don’t get sad or grumpy. You need to get out your friends and family, and find new and exciting things to do.’

Why do we sleep at night? Humans can’t see well at night. The brain also tells us when to sleep. We can be affected by jet lag when we travel. The body clock also helps to regulate sleep patterns. Sleep helps to make us happy.

Can we go back in time? You need 2 black holes to build a time machine. You need to build a time tunnel and then jump through it. It is practically impossible to build something like that.

Why do we have lots of countries and not just 1 big country? People were born in different places and did not have the chance to communicate with one another in the past. The kings and queens were power hungry and did not want to share power with others. However, the world is becoming more global than ever before.

What makes me me? Your body contains genetic codes. Every genetic code contains a slightly different sequence. You inherited some cells in your brain from your parents. Grow to make yourselves.

What is the Internet for? It lets people connect. People invent new things through it. It is an incredible leap of technology.

How did Michelangelo get so famous? He was also famous in his lifetime. Because of the Sistine Chapel and his carvings of biblical references. His paintings are really emotive.

How do you fall in love? It’s like falling through space. You have to be brave. Love is not controllable. The trick is to love and be loved in return. You should not worry too much about it. Don’t panic and stay calm. You don’t think too much about it. Love sets off weird emotions in us. Love is blind. Love releases certain chemicals in our brain.

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Nelson Mandela quotes 1 to 25

  1. In love, unlike politics, caution is not usually a virtue. I was neither confident enough to think I might succeed nor secure enough to bear the sense of failure if I did not. – Nelson Mandela (recalling his younger days when he didn’t dare to confess to a girl that he liked)
  2. Many people will appear to befriend you when you are wealthy, but precious few will do the same when you are poor. If wealth is a magnet, poverty is a repellent. Yet, poverty often brings out the true generosity in others.
  3. I had no epiphany, no singular revelation, no moment of truth, but a steady accumulation of a thousand slights, a thousand indignities, a thousand unremembered moments, produced in me an anger, a rebelliousness, a desire to fight the system that imprisoned my people.
  4. But now the white man had felt the power of my punches and I could walk upright like a man, and look everyone in the eye with the dignity that comes from not having succumbed to oppression and fear. I had come of age as a freedom fighter.
  5. This was a significant achievement; for fear of prison is a tremendous hindrance to a liberation struggle. From the defiance campaign onward, going to prison became a badge of honor among Africans.
  6. After one has been to prison, it is the small things that one appreciates: being able to take a walk whenever one wants, going into a shop and buying a newspaper, speaking or choosing to remain silent. The simple act of being able to control one’s actions.
  7. Boxing is egalitarian. In the ring, rank, age, colour and wealth are irrelevant. When you are circling your opponent, probing his strengths and weaknesses, you are not thinking about his colour or social status.
  8. When you question a man’s integrity, you can expect a fight.
  9. For my own part I have made my choice. I will not leave South Africa, nor will I surrender. Only through hardship, sacrifice and militant action can freedom be won. The struggle is my life. I will continue fighting for freedom until the end of my days.
  10. It is not pleasant to be arrested in front of one’s children, even though one knows that what one is doing is right. But children do not comprehend the complexity of the situation; they simply see their father being taken away by the white authorities without an explanation.
  11. Prison not only robs you of your freedom, it attempts to take away your identity. As a freedom fighter and as a man, one must fight against the prison’s attempt to rob one of these qualities.
  12. After a time in solitary, I relished the company even of the insects in my cell, and found myself on the verge of initiating conversations with a cockroach…Nothing is more dehumanizing than the absence of human companionship.
  13. This was one of the state’s most barbarous techniques of applying pressure: imprisoning the wives and children of freedom fighters. Many men in prison were able to handle anything the authorities did to them, but the thought of the state doing the same thing to their families was almost impossible to bear.
  14. One can be in extraordinarily intimate circumstances with someone for months, and then never see the person again. It is dehumanizing, for it forces one to adapt by becoming more self-contained and insulated.
  15. It is what we make out of what we have, not what we are given, that separates one person from another.
  16. A leader, is like a shepherd. He stays behind the flock, letting the most nimble go out ahead, whereupon the others follow, not realizing that they all along they are being directed from behind.
  17. I was prepared for the death penalty. To be truly prepared for something, one must actually expect it. One cannot be prepared for something while secretly believing it will not happen.
  18. Men, I think, are not capable of doing nothing, of saying nothing, of not reacting to injustice, of not protesting against oppression, of not striving for the good society and the good life in the ways they see it.
  19. The human body has an enormous capacity for adjusting to trying circumstances. I have found that one can bear the unbearable if one can keep one’s spirits strong even when one’s body is being tested. Strong convictions are the secret of surviving deprivation; your spirit can be full even when your stomach is empty.
  20. When letters did arrive, they were cherished. A letter was like the summer rain that could make even the desert bloom.
  21. Change is gradual and incremental, and when one lives in the midst of one’s family, one rarely notices differences in them. But when one doesn’t see one’s family for many years at a time, the transformation can be striking.
  22. Prison was a kind of crucible that tested a man’s character. Some men, under the pressure of incarceration, showed mettle, while others revealed themselves as less than what they had appeared to be.
  23. There is nothing so encouraging in prison as learning that the people outside are supporting the cause for which you are inside.
  24. It was a useful reminder that all men, even the most seemingly cold-blooded, have a core of decency, and that if their heart is touched, they are capable of changing.
  25. I knew that accidents (killing of innocent civilians) were the inevitable consequence of the decision to embark on a military struggle. Human fallibility is always a part of war, and the price of it is always high.

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Dealing with Difficult People by Malcolm E Rockwood

How to Deal with A-holes at Work, at Home and at Life

This book deals with proven strategies. Although it is normal to be bad once in a while, some people are perpetually bad. They often spread negativity everywhere else. You need help when dealing with such people. Do not step down to their level or be hostile.

Understanding Difficult People. Sometimes, you will just lose your cool. There are many kinds of difficult people and they create problems in your life. Understanding them will definitely help. Put yourself in their shoes. They might be sick etc and that is causing such a behaviour. They might have low self-esteem. They might be under the influence of drugs. Their personal problems might be weighing them down. For the rare cases, they possess some form of mental disorder. One type of them is the control freaks. Their strategy is to intimidate others and not give in when you suggest something. Often, they lie to manipulate the outcome. In addition, they can be hostile and angry when things don’t go their way. Deep down, they can be passive aggressive. The second types of difficult people are the ones that are self-absorbed. They are pre-occupied with their own desires. They are greedy, needy and care about themselves. Generally, they just like talking about themselves. The third type of difficult person is ‘The Stumbling Block Creator’. Their job is to prevent you from progressing. Often, they like to micromanage too. The fourth category of people are the ultra-toxic people. They are often hurtful and emotionally draining. Often, they have chameleon personalities and try to manipulate people. Basically, they are imposters. Hanging out with such people will affect your long term self-esteem. You need to be equipped with knowledge on how to handle such people.

Keys to Effectively Handle Difficult People. It is not possible to avoid them all the time. The important thing is to focus on yourself and build resilience. Look at which makes you upset. Once you have mastery over your emotions, nothing will faze you. You have to acknowledge that the other person is being very difficult. Try to understand where they are coming from. Validate that person’s thoughts and make him feel better. Validate and listen to him carefully. Understand where they are coming from. Stay calm before reacting. This is very important. Try to bond with them. Listen to others on how to deal with the difficult person. Respond calmly and do not blow your top or do something drastic. Show self-confidence and do not take things personally.

Different Types of Difficult People and How to Deal with Them. The Howitzer is very angry and confrontational. The key is to stay strong and appear calm. You have to make yourself seem respectable. Be assertive, calm and non-emotional. The Know-It-All does not tolerate correction. You must know your facts very well when talking. One way is to turn the person into a mentor. When dealing with a complainer, find a solution to the things they are complaining about. Do not agree with them, but remain tactful. Convince a ‘Yes’ man that it is okay to say no sometimes. Learn to be honest with the ‘Yes’ man. The indecisive person will put off decision making. Say the pros and cons of making a decision.

Dealing with Difficult People at Work. Your work will be smoother if you can handle difficult people. There is at least one asshole in your workplace. One thing you need to realise is that you can’t change them. Be careful of the slackers. Productivity will be affected by the presence of slackers. The solution is to focus on your responsibilities alone. Stop picking up his slack. If you want to take on his work, make sure your boss knows. The ultracompetitive will backstab you. Just ignore him and do your best at work. The fraud likes to exaggerate their achievements. Just ignore the fraud in the office. If he is telling lies about you, step up and defend yourself. There will be those who like to gossip in the office. Confront your colleague if you are the victim of gossip. Keep employees busy during working hours to prevent them from gossiping. To deal with a difficult boss, do your best so that your boss can’t fault you unnecessarily. Share your thoughts in a respectful way. Tread carefully if you still want to keep your job. Do not aggravate the situation and make him unhappy.

Dealing with Difficult People at Home. You can’t simply ignore your loved ones. It is important to deal with them properly to avoid straining the relationship. Your parents are strict because they love you. If they are unreasonable, sit down and have a chat. Do not use strong words. Slowly earn back their trust. Do not simply march off. You should accept a lazy sibling but not tolerate such behaviour. Give teenagers some space too. As a parent, you need to demonstrate that you do things out of love. Be calm. Give them a timeout etc. Learn to deal with a difficult spouse. Let your feelings out, but in a respectful manner. Only talk when you are calm. If the problems can’t be solved, go for a divorce.

Dealing with Difficult People That you Meet in your everyday life. Tell your difficult friend that a relationship is about give and take. Keep an open communication. If the difficult person is a teacher, be sure to be respectful. One way is to approach your guidance counsellor for help. Talk to your neighbours about their bad behaviour. In order to understand the facts, have a chat with the neighbour.

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50 Powerful Date Ideas by Jordan Gray

Men must show effort in creating the date. Having a plan is very important. Women are attracted to men who can lead. Have conversational starters to help you along the way. Some of the activities will allow you to have physical touch as well. Women like to be treated well and being felt appreciated. You need to make her feel special on the date. Whoever initiates the date should pay. In addition, do not let the payment issue hinder your relationship. Avoid the mess with simple and practical solutions. Even though she may offer to pay you, do not accept it. Connection is very important in a date. Presence is more important than presents. An emotional connection is a big plus. Physical touch is possible if you all are engaging in activities other than dining. There are certain type of activities which makes conversation more appropriate than others. Take note of costs too as you do not want to keep spending beyond your means.

Rock Climbing. This is a great event. People bond better over activities which make their adrenaline rush. It is a unique activity.

Frisbee Golf. It is practically free. Try to intercept her Frisbee and be playful. Remember to plan for wet weather conditions.

People Watching. Create scenarios by watching people. You can spin creative stories that way. It can build rapport. However, the problem is that it can be difficult to keep the conversation going. Do not try too hard.

Kayaking and Packed Lunch Picnic. Rent it for a few days and have fun. Admire the scenery and there is no need to talk that much. Use the picnic to refuel yourself.

Cooking Class. This is a good way to build rapport. Be careful of those places that overcharge.

Partnered Salsa Lessons. You can have physical intimacy. Most importantly, you must feel confident while dancing. This is also a way to show your leadership potential.

Yoga. It is calming in nature. Even if you are not good, simply show up and try it out. It is also cost effective. Try not to stare at other girls in the yoga room.

Flying a Kite in the Park. It is fun and you can perform kite stunts as well. Teamwork is required for bonding too. Beware of bad weather etc.

Chocolate Factory/Wine Tour/Brewery Tour. A guided tour is good if you don’t want to talk too much. This also is a very unique event. Make sure you don’t too drunk on the wine/brewery tour.

Mini-Golf. It is fun and easy to execute. Be cheeky about it sometimes. Help her with her swing.

Go Ice-Skating. Hand holding and physical intimacy is definitely possible here. Stay close to her and ensure that she doesn’t fall too badly.

Shooting Range. Your adrenaline will soar once you fire a pistol. Do not worry as this is held in a controlled and safe environment.

Karaoke. This requires some courage and doing a duet can be really romantic. It’s not about how well you sing, but about having fun. Stay humorous.

Basketball. This is inexpensive and is a good form of exercise. Modify the rules for her if she is not good at it.

Tandem Biking. It is difficult to mount the bike, but laughter will ensure that you bond well. Sometimes, awkward moments are good for the relationship. Allow her to take the front seat for a while too.

Driving Range. It is certainly very entertaining. Just relax and do not have too high expectations on yourself.

Whale Watching. The ocean is vast and this is an inexpensive hobby. Plus, you are on a mission with her to seek buried treasure together. Even if you did not spot any whales, this sport is still fun.

Art Night-In. Infuse creative juices into your art life. Creativity also will make you feel smarter. Let your creative mind take it from there.

Spanish Themed Night-In. Have eye contact with her and start dancing. Let the music do the talking.

‘Drive-In’ Movie Night. Watch a movie outdoors. Let the movie do the talking in this case.

Secret Envelope Date Structure. Create some surprise in the date structure. It can jolt your romantic spark in you.

Sunrise Surprise. Go up the hill and make a nice breakfast for yourself. This is a beautiful experience. Remember to bring snacks so that you both won’t go hungry.

Runway Rendezvous. Lie back and watch the planes take off. Physical intimacy and uniqueness is certainly possible here.

See a Drive-In Movie. Catch a movie at a cinema.

Outdoor Table for 2. This requires more planning. Keep planning to ensure nothing goes wrong. Buy extra supplies if needed.

Book Store/Library Date. Take turns to pick books and read to each other. Discover what type of books you both like. As reading is intensive, keep a lookout on low energy levels.

Hot Air Ballooning. This is really brag-worthy and impressive. If you fear heights, this is probably not for you.

Billiards. Attach a bet to dates. It is both playful and competitive. Be creative and set forfeits for each other.

Look Out. Drive to a scenic spot and observe the scenery. It is both romantic and intimate. This idea is usually very useful indeed.

Watching an amateur stand-up comedy night. Although some are not good, couples can bond over laughter. Recall some of the humorous lines even after the date.

Seeing a Live Dance Performance. Enjoy the night of dancing. There is nothing like witnessing passionate dancers.

Watching Live Theatre. You get to support the arts economy and the date will be entertaining. Be lighthearted and fun.

Go Bowling. This is playful and competitive at the same time. It’s classic.

Art Gallery/Science Centre. Learn about how the world works and play with hands-on experiments. Embrace the process. Let your inner child run free.

Day Time Symphonic Orchestra. Pretend to be culturally aware and refined for once. Your friends must think that you are classy too.

Fondue. It is easy to bond over chocolate.

Finger Foods. Share plates with each other and feed each other. If you make food for her, that will be even more romantic. Be original in your date ideas to score even more points.

Farmers Market. Browse quality and nutritious goods. These are usually tasty and fun. Offer her a suggestion too. Start experimenting.

Play in the Park. This can bring back memories for you. Reconnect with your inner childhood and make you happy. Remember to be dressed casually.

Indoor Picnic. This is intimate and easy to achieve as well. Remember to bring a mat.

Build a Fort Together. Build a fort to cuddle up against. This is also very cheap and is costless.

Sexy Jenga! This is a 5 star idea. It is both thrilling and will allow you to bond over conversations.

See a Local Sporting Event. Tickets to a local sporting event might be inexpensive. One can also have delicious snacks and be at ease.

Planetarium. This is also educational in nature. Low maintenance date.

A Day at the Races. Attend a horse racing event and bet on the horses.

Arcade. Allow her to win a few games too. It is old fashioned and can bring back memories.

Sun-Date. Create ice cream together.

Go-Kart. High octane event. However, it can be a little expensive.

Home Spa. Do pedicure and manicure on each other. This can be a very intimate affair indeed.

Movie Marathon. This involves a lot of cuddling. However, if you are bored, switch it up by going for a walk etc.

FAQ: Being resourceful is very important; Do not be too conscious about how you are.

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Repurpose Your Career by Marc Miller

A Practical Guide for Baby Boomers

After a near accident, I knew that I had to find a good path of life. It was a moment of awakening. Is it possible to change your life? I am a career design expert. Whatever change you want to make, you will need a strategy and a plan. A career pivot is taking small steps towards your goal. Ask yourself what your skillsets are, what your resource system is? Your health? Your financial situation?  Are you ready for unchartered territory? You may have to ask for help and even take up more courses.

Many people embrace retirement. Retirement, to many, are like golden hand-cuffs. My life didn’t go according to plan. Many of the baby boomers were hit badly by the financial crisis. Homes are worth a lot less nowadays. Does owning a home make sense anymore? However, retirement is a period of inactivity which some people really can’t stand. Work is supposed to provide meaning and not just a simple pay check. Your job is to find something which suits you and not think about retirement. What are the rewards you get from home apart form a pay check.

Figure out a clear destination for yourself. You need to be in charge of your own schedules and organizational systems. Seek out exactly what you need from the particular job. Most people seek rewards, in one form of the other. We want to feel appreciated. What types of rewards do you want? Most people crave freedom, such as not being micromanaged. Freedom could also mean the ability to be creative in the way we work. What type of freedom do you crave? People also like to be respected in their work. Networking will be useful to solve this. Do you like a job where you are multitask and where is a wide variety in the work? Does multitasking make you feel more stressed than necessary?

Have an assessment. Know thyself. You must understand your stresses and what makes you happy. Birkman assessment is a good tool one can use. How much alone time do you need? Some people are deep down frustrated and angry. The assessment will be able to show this. However, sometimes, it is not easy to ask for what you want. How high are your empathy levels? Your job preferences might be different from someone else’s. Some people need long stretches of uninterrupted peace in order to get their best work done. Look at how best you work. Take a career assessment to find out more about yourself.

Big and major moments in your life might give you clarity. It might reveal truths about you. You would finally have the chance to learn something about yourself. You must act once you have clarity. Through this, you will discover peace. After these moments, you might pivot to try new things. Fill up the pattern for every job you have. 1) Description of Job; 2) Reason you took it up; 3) Influenced by who?; 4) How You Found This Job?; 5) Environment; 6) Feel; 7) Team or Solo; 8) Independence; 9) Manager’s Style; 10) Work Pace/Schedule; 11) Rewards; 12) Best Thing about your job; 13) Worst Thing about your job; 14) What I learned about what I needed; 15) What I learned about what I do not need; 16) Reason You Left Your Job; 17) Who/What Influenced You to Leave; 18) Exit Status.

You need to understand the nuances of what the career entails. You may not like every aspect of the job and your previous experience may not always be applicable in your new role. Talk to those people who are already in the industry you want to be in. You MUST strategically network to find out more.

That’s the problem with just jumping from one job to another. We romanticize the pleasant parts and make assumptions about the rest. – Marc Miller

Before you drop everything and jump into a career, you need to understand the career. It’s not enough to be passionate. – Marc Miller

Happiness comes from the intersection of what you love, what you’re good at, and what the world needs. We’ve been told time and again to keep finding the first. Our schools helped develop the second. It’s time we put more thought on the third. – Unknown

What if you hate the people you are working with? You must figure out exactly why you want to leave. Is it because of the boss? A supportive team is crucial for your happiness. List what you value most in a team. If you have good colleagues, you may have a crappy boss. Identify his traits which make him so unlikeable. You more you have control over your work, the happier you will be. Are you the type who likes to walk around and talk to people? Do you fit in the corporate mould? Take the career assessment to find out more about yourself.

A lot of us can be happy doing so-so tasks for adequate pay if we really like the people we work with. – Marc Miller

You will have to talk to real people. I know it might be difficult to ask for help, especially when you have a big ego or are very successful. But the thing is that asking for help is really important. Most people will be willing to help you too. Ask people on the inside, people who are already in the industries you want to enter. Suck it up and be humble, especially when you want to make a career change.

Your Tribe are those who can help you in your career, not just acquaintances. They are the ones who will be able to help you with in your career. Don’t do a pivot without a tribe. You have to cultivate it. Send messages with TLC once in a while in order to stay in touch. Make a connection once in a while. Try to be of mutual benefit to one another. Look for opportunities to help others without expecting anything in return. Don’t forget to say thank you. Remember to continue networking with those from your tribe.

You must have a goal in mind. Build relationships with people who can help you to enter your preferred industry. Learn to network with recruiters. Conduct strategic networking with an individual. Ask for ‘advice’. Ask for introductions to others in the company as well. Remember to send thank you notes at the end.

It is never good to bitch about your boss to your other colleagues. The same applies to your ex-relationships. Create the elevator pitch. Know what type of boss you like. Why is your boss so good?

Do research before joining. Talk to recruiters to find out more. Try to find out what the hiring manager will be like. Always ask questions at the end of the interview to reveal your interest. Write down at least 10 questions which you are planning on asking. Ask about the work environment, management style, level of freedom etc.

Reframe the question ‘Why do you want to leave your current position?’ Have a pivot sort of response. Pivot back with a question instead. I am looking for more job variety. Is your job able to achieve it? Never get negative when asking this sort of questions. Never tell what you dislike about your job. Put it in a positive light. Frame the question in a way that it sounds positive.

It is unlikely that you want just more money. What sorts of benefits are important to you? Never ever talk about pay in the interview. Learn to negotiate the non-financial needs first.

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