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Online Dating by Remi Kapler

Cheat Codes of Love. This book has tips on how to succeed in online dating. Finding time to scour different venues like bars etc may be too tiring. There is no fairy tale in romance. One way to meet people is to use online dating. There are benefits to online dating. If your offline dating is futile, do consider online dating. There is no loss.

Internet Dating 101 – A Tell-All Guide. Learn to decipher online dating. Technology may be able to help you connect with more people. It is human nature to seek romantic relationships. Technology is trying to make things more convenient for everyone. What are some of the pros and cons of online dating? There will always be risks and horror stories associated with online dating. Although there are scams, have faith that everything will be fine. Some of the pros are: 1) no more late night visits to the singles bar. Even if you scout at a bar, your chances are minimal at best. Girls in a bar are also rarely serious in how they act. 2) Online dating offers good variety. Your aim is to find love. At a bar, usually, it sends up with sex on the first date and this spoils the whole relationship from this point onwards. There is no alcohol involved in online dating, so it is much healthier and safer. 3) In offline dating, you don’t know who you will get, whether she is attached or whatever. Online dating is better as you can filter by criteria. This ensures that it is not a pure shot in the dark. 4) Great First Dates. If you have chatted with the person beforehand, there is a high chance that the date will be a success. You will also not feel as nervous as meeting a complete stranger. Now, we need to look at the cons as well. However, it is possible to mitigate the cons. 1) Internet Scammers – these are people with fake profiles. Dating scammers get close to you and want some information from you in the end. It is important to be wary of such people. He might want things like money, gifts from you. The scammer will often claim to have a medical emergency, requiring fast cash. Do not fall prey to those scammers at any cost. Watch out for tell-tale scamming signs. A scammer will often say things that are not consistent with their profile. Do not tempted to send personal information. Always meet at a public area. 2) Many people fall prey to the ‘shopping mentality’ for dating. This indicates a lack of commitment to take things further. 3) Your personal data belongs to the app and might be taken away from you in a lawsuit etc. 4) There might be security issues/misrepresentation on the apps.

Most online dating platforms make it easy to specify your exact needs and sieve everything not meeting your criteria. This removes the guessing bit and wild guess aspect of dating. Further, before you get to interact with matches’ before you go on the first date, you get an ideal chance to decipher whether someone is worth the trouble of a date or not way before you plan the first date. – Remi Kapler

Your Quest for Online Love Starts Here. There are many specific sites for exactly what you are looking out for. Find the one that best suits your needs. OkCupid and Tinder are the 2 most popular apps/websites around. Tinder is the new type of dating. Decide what type of relationship you want. This is really very important. You must answer them truthfully. Always be honest with your dates and learn to be vulnerable. Do not lie about your profile. Exercise patience. Do not pass off judgment too quickly. Tinder is one of the best dating apps around. It is also easy to use. As it is an image driven app, it is important to have a good clear photo of yourself. It should show you having fun and enjoying yourself and showing how awesome your life is.

How to create a beautiful outstanding online dating profile? Choose your username prudently. Be creative and come up with an interesting name. Be cheeky and let your personality shine through. Hook them with your headline and bio. Use an inspiring quote. After reading, someone should feel a sense of excitement. Write your profile in as little words as possible. Avoid using the words ‘I’. Make your profile stand out with your likes and activities. You will definitely want to sell yourself. You will definitely want to appear different and unique. Let the picture do the talking. Avoid bathroom or mirror selfies.

Your Boot Camp Guide to Online Dating Profile Photos. Your photos matter a great deal. Ensure all the pictures of yours are of similar standard. More is better. Try not to crop photos and others can tell. Try to show your left side of your face. Ensure a full length photo. Apply the three shot rule.

The three shot rule states the following: One of your profile images should have you looking straight at the camera and smiling. The second should show you engaged in something you like to do for fun. The third shot should show off your personality, whom you are as a person. – Remi Kapler

The Icing on the Cake – Going All-Out. Learn how to filter your matches and find the ideal love partners. Understand that some matches will click and others will not. You will need to learn how to open up conversation. Create a strategy of who you want to look out for. Keep a scoring system of those traits. Create curiosity from your profile. The best way to start a conversation is to find a common topic. Avoid dirty jokes that will make you seem perverted. Use correct grammar and avoid net speak. Simple, short and sweet works best. Answer a message in the same tone in which you received it. The next step, how should you plan your first date? As soon as you are comfortable with the person, ask the person out on a date. Just think of it as any other first date. Meet at a public area. Always prepare for anything good or bad as the first date may not go according to what you expected.

Your profile should not be a tell-all stop sign; you should leave room for some curiosity, or what we call creating a curiosity ‘gap’. Offer just enough information to inflame a curiosity that compels the ‘right’ matches to reach out. – Remi Kapler

The best way to start a conversation with someone you really like is to find common ground, make a comment about that, and immediately after, ask a question. Nothing makes someone, stranger or otherwise, experience the ‘you care’ emotion faster than a well-thought out question. – Remi Kapler

Ideally, your first message should make a simple introduction, highlight your interest in the person through a comment about something you have in common with that person, and a sign off with your name. This should amount to a few lines of text. The trick here is to leave him or her wanting and yearning for more. – Remi Kapler