Psychology quotes 201 to 250

  1. ‘Their experiment, the authors write, suggests that when we do something with another person, we pay more attention to that experience than we would if we weren’t sharing it, even though we now have somebody else to think about.’ Anna North
  2. ‘You and your friend are listening to Stravinsky’s ‘Rite of Spring.’ Thoughts about this piece of music are now intertwined with thoughts about your friend. Even though you are both focused on the melody, you are also highly aware of one another. Thinking about your friend and his or her mind might therefore cause you to think more about the ‘Rite of Spring,’ because that is also what is on his or her mind.’ Anna North
  3. ‘The research distinguishes between sharing or ‘self-disclosure,’ which is associated with positive friendships and positive feelings, and dwelling on problems, concerns and frustrations. Dwelling and rehashing issues can keep girls, who are more prone to depression and anxiety than boys, stuck in negative thinking patterns, psychologists say.” Anna North
  4. ‘Our research suggests that doing an unpleasant task together can make it worse,” she explained, “but that we can get relief from the negativity if the person we’re with is instead focused on a different task. In other words, what really matters for experience amplification seems to be the locus of the other person’s attention. If someone else is attending to the same thing you are, your experience will be more intense than if that person is attending to something else.” Erica J. Boothby
  5. ‘We cannot cure existential anxiety, but we can show that there is no necessity to have big ideas worth dying for in order to find small pleasures worth living for.’ Adam Gopnik
  6. ‘When you are alone you have to face all your problems alone – there’s no one to discuss them with. But in all the time that I have spent alone, I have never felt lonely. I had so many things that I wanted to see. I loved it so much, doing things in my own rhythm, drifting along streets and looking at things just as I wanted to. It is a great luxury.’ Dorothea Bluemer
  7. ‘When we’re inactive or slow down the pace at which we live, we can’t help thinking of features of our lives we’d prefer to forget – above all, the fact that we’re going to die. By being always on the move and never leaving ourselves without distraction, we can avoid such disturbing thoughts.’ John Gray
  8. ‘Blaise Pascal (a Mathematician) suggested that humans are driven by a need for diversion. A life that’s always time-pressed might seem a recipe for unhappiness, but in fact the opposite is true. Human beings are much more miserable when they have nothing to do and plenty of time in which to do it.’ John Gray
  9. “It’s the principle of reciprocity. If someone does something for you and you feel obliged to do something back. It’s the same principle that marketing people use when they give you free samples.” Sandy Mann, on why giving free food to employees might increase their productivity
  10. ‘Maslow described a “hierarchy of needs” for human beings. The most basic are physiological – including food and shelter – and a feeling of safety. If these are taken care of, employees can move on to the next stages – feeling socially accepted and gaining a sense of self-esteem. Once freed of such ordinary human concerns, Maslow argued, they can progress to “self-actualisation” – a full-on commitment to their work which leaves them feeling fulfilled.’ Justin Parkinson
  11. ‘From then onwards (after detesting aristocracy), Dostoyvesky realised that human life was not a movement from a backward past to a better future, as he had believed or half-believed when he shared the ideas of the radical intelligentsia. Instead, every human being stood at each moment on the edge of eternity.’ John Gray
  12. ‘Dostoyevsky suggests that the result of abandoning morality for the sake of an idea of freedom will be a type of tyranny more extreme than any in the past.’ John Gray
  13. ‘So rather than trying to override your decision-making impulses on splurging on expensive items, a better strategy might be to try to change them. And recent research suggests that an effective way to do that is by cultivating the emotion of gratitude.’ David DeSteno
  14. ‘Findings show is that certain emotions can temporarily enhance self-control by decreasing desires for immediate gratification. While feeling happy doesn’t do much to increase patience, feeling grateful does.’ David DeSteno
  15. ‘Working longer, in other words, only guarantees achieving more if you’re confident that every minute is well spent.’ Gaby Hinsliff
  16. ‘Are you really, really happy or are you just comfortable?’ Unknown
  17. ‘A friend with a degree in positive psychology and who is a “psychotherapist and resilience coach” distinguishes between two ideas of happiness: hedonism and eudaimonia. The first is defined by pleasure and consumption, the second by virtue and excellence. Hedonism is a source of fleeting feelings of pleasure, but it ultimately fuels dissatisfaction. Eudaimonia, by contrast, is the idea of human flourishing, of how human beings thrive when they choose certain ways of living. A central concept in Aristotle’s Ethics, it is about the good life as an end to strive for, not as a thing to possess or consume.’ Lydia Lim, a ST editor
  18. ‘The more we learn, the more we are able, by linking our areas of knowledge together, to come up with creative ideas…Thus the more we know, the more we can create.’ Philippa Perry (How to Stay Sane)
  19. ‘It has been an important experience to see how people can take ordinary things and transform them into meaningful symbols. We can create aesthetic experiences — not only aesthetic, but ecstatic — by paying attention to what’s around us, finding the beauty in things that you normally pass over.’ Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
  20. ‘Courage is more exhilarating than fear and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to be heroes overnight. Just a step at a time. Meeting each thing that comes up. Seeing it is not as dreadful as it appeared. Discovering we have the strength to stare it down.’ Eleanor Roosevelt
  21. ‘We can’t live outside time, we begin to age the moment we’re born. But the emerging age-acceptance movement neither decries nor denies the aging process. It recognizes that one can remain vital and present, engaged and curious, indeed continue to grow, until one’s dying breath.’ Anne Karpf
  22. ‘When alternatives are on a par, when the world doesn’t determine a single right thing to do, that doesn’t mean that value writ large has been exhausted. Instead of looking outward to find the value that determines what you should do, you can look inward to what you can stand behind, commit to, resolve to throw yourself behind. By committing to an option, you can confer value on it.’ Ruth Chang
  23. ‘When we choose between options that are on a par, we make ourselves the authors of our own lives. Instead of being led by the nose by what we imagine to be facts of the world, we should instead recognize that sometimes the world is silent about what we should do. In those cases, we can create value for ourselves by committing to an option.’ Ruth Chang
  24. ‘Writing about your feelings, a practice long embraced by teenagers and folk singers, is now attracting attention as a path to good health. And a recent study suggests that reflecting on your emotions could help you get over a breakup.’ Anna North
  25. ‘There’s a really delicate balance between avoiding and getting over-involved for every stressful event, and so you touch on it, you think about it, you put it out there, you reflect, and then you sort of create some distance.” Dr. Sbarra
  26. ‘Because being easy on the eye won’t give you an easy pass to online success (dating websites). Instead, having people think you are unattractive can actually work to your advantage.’ Hannah Fry
  27. ‘And the maths behind this algorithm comes with an important result: those who do the asking (take initiative) will always end up with much better partners than the group who sit back and accept a suitor’s advances.’ Hannah Fry
  28. ‘When choosing a profile picture (dating website), don’t be afraid to put some people off. You’re not trying to appeal to the masses, so don’t make yourself bland. Play up to whatever makes you different – that’s the best way to attract the people who matter.’ Hannah Fry
  29. ‘As almost a century of research on romantic relationships has taught us, predicting whether two people are romantically compatible requires the sort of information that comes to light only after they have actually met.’ Eli J. Finkel
  30. ‘Curated text and a handful of pictures will never be able to tell you whether the first-date conversation will crackle or whether you’ll feel a desire to discover what makes this person tick.’ Eli J. Finkel
  31. ‘But for open-minded singles — those who would like to marry someday and want to enjoy dating in the meantime — Tinder may be the best option available now. Indeed, it may be the best option that has ever existed.’ Eli J. Finkel
  32. ‘The more you express your happiness, the stronger it becomes inside you. If you hold your happiness in and never express it, it gradually dissipates. Express it clearly and visibly and it gets stronger and lasts longer.’ Alexander Kjerulf (Happy Hour is 9 to 5)
  33. “I mused for a few moments on the question of which was worse, to lead a life so boring that you are easily enchanted, or a life so full of stimulus that you are easily bored.” Bill Bryson
  34. ‘We are all human beings. We were born without any guarantee that we would not make mistakes.’ Arsenal manager, Arsene Wenger
  35. ‘We pick our friends not only because they are kind and enjoyable company, but also, perhaps more importantly, because they understand us for who we think we are.’ Alain De Botton (The Consolations of Philosophy)
  36. ‘The scientists suggested that a single alcoholic drink could make people seem more attractive because it caused facial muscles to relax, pupils to dilate and cheeks to flush. Rosiness is attractive because it characterizes good physical health characteristics.’ Professor Marcus Munafo
  37. ‘The emotions of hatred, envy and covetousness and lust for domination are life-conditioning emotions…which must fundamentally and essentially be present in the total economy of life.’ Friedrich Nietzsche
  38. ‘Male dogs responded better than female dogs and both groups spent less time standing and barking when the music was being played. Although by the end of the week their heart rates and behaviour associated with kennel stress had returned to normal, the initial findings are very encouraging and show that classical music does have a positive impact on the dogs’ welfare.’ Mendes Ferreira
  39. ‘People who are generally impatient, or who get bored or frustrated easily, are more likely to engage in repetitive body-focused behaviors such as skin-picking, nail-biting or eyelash-pulling.’ Dr Kieron O’Connor
  40. “We believe that individuals with these repetitive behaviors may be perfectionistic, meaning that they are unable to relax and to perform task at a ‘normal’ pace. They are therefore prone to frustration, impatience, and dissatisfaction when they do not reach their goals. They also experience greater levels of boredom.” Dr. Kieron O’Connor
  41. ‘If you ever aren’t sure if you attended the very best party or bought the very best computer, just settle for “good enough.” People who do this are called “satisficers,” and they’re consistently happier, he’s found, than are “maximizers,” people who feel that they must choose the very best possible option.’ Albert Schwartz
  42. ‘A person of kindness and virtue, in whom we find nothing to which to object, can leave us indifferent or cold from a romantic point of view, whereas someone else who is without these virtues may, for reasons that are almost completely unclear, appeal to us profoundly.’ Christopher Hamilton (How to Deal with Adversity)
  43. ”That is why those who are truly addicted to something feel, when indulging the addiction, that the world is theirs. But, of course, when the moment has passed, they feel even more acutely the indifference of the world – which feeds the addiction.’ Christopher Hamilton (How to Deal with Adversity)
  44. ‘Researchers used functional magnetic resonance imaging to look at the effect of donation on the brain. They found increased activity in the ventral striatum during acts of voluntary giving. This is a region associated with reward, one of the areas that bursts into life under the influence of addictive stimulants like cocaine. Charity can get you high.’ David Shariatmadari
  45. ‘I’m a human being, and the good feeling I get from being generous isn’t something I can rise above. Better to acknowledge that giving to charity is selfish, and keep on giving, all the same.’ David Shariatmadari
  46. ‘‘What’s more, our ability to read for pleasure is taxed by the amount of reading we do. There is such a glut of blogs, emails, texts and tweets that the distinction between literary works and nonliterary works has become badly blurred and people tend to read everything in the same way, pragmatically.’ Lily Tuck
  47. ‘In his book “The Act of Reading,” Wolfgang Iser, known for his reader-response theories, writes that ideally a book should transform a reader by “disconfirming” his habitual notions and perceptions and thus forcing him or her to a new understanding of them.’ Lily Tuck
  48. ”The idea that young people are indefatigable hedonists, forever in search of their next pleasure-fix, surgically attached to social media, utterly belies the fact that young people are more prone to wrestle with life’s meaning and purpose than older and often more cynical adults.’ Anne Karpf (How to Age)
  49. ‘We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.’ Orson Welles
  50. ‘If you were required to choose all your phone settings on your own, you would have to spend a great deal of time thinking about which settings were best, and you might end up frustrated and bored. You might also make a lot of mistakes.’ Cass R. Sunstein

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Warren Buffett quotes 1 to 25

  1. ‘No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time. You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.’
  2. ‘I have in life all I want right here. I love every day. I mean, I tap dance in here and work with nothing but people I like. There is no job in the world that is more fun than running Berkshire and I count myself lucky to be where I am.’
  3. ‘Stocks are simple. All you do is buy shares in a great business for less than the business is intrinsically worth, with management of the highest integrity and ability. Then you own those shares forever.’
  4. ‘What we do is not beyond anybody else’s competence. It is just not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results.’
  5. ‘Can you really explain to a fish what it’s like to walk on land? One day on land is worth a thousand years talking about it and one day running a business has exactly the same value.’
  6. ‘It has been helpful to me to have ten of thousands (students) turned out of business schools taught that it didn’t do any good to think.’
  7. ‘It’s bad to go to bed at night thinking about the price of a stock. We think about the value and company results; The stock market is there to serve you, not instruct you.’
  8. ‘Charlie Munger and I have not learned how to solve difficult business problems. What we have learned is to avoid them. To the extent that we have been successful, it is because we concentrated on identifying one-foot hurdles that we could step over rather than because we acquired any ability to clear seven-footers.’
  9. ‘The market, like the Lord, helps those who can help themselves. But unlike the Lord, the market does not forgive those who know not what they do.’
  10. ‘In evaluating people, you look for 3 qualities: integrity, intelligence and energy. If you don’t have the first, the other two will kill you.’
  11. ‘You think about that. How could they get a result like that? I’ll tell you how…mindless imitation of their peers.’ Warren Buffett, on how 37 investment banking firms fell even though the NYSE volume had multiplied fifteen-fold
  12. ‘Selling is just meeting people, figuring out what they need, and supplying their needs. But those needs are ever changing. So if you’re doing business the same way you did it five years ago, or even two years ago – you’re doing it wrong.’
  13. ‘I am a better investor because I am a businessman and a better businessman because I am an investor.’
  14. ‘When investing, Charlie and I view ourselves as business analysts – not as market analysts, not as macroeconomic analysts, and not even as security analysts.’
  15. ‘The snowball just happens if you’re in the right kind of snow, and that’s what happened with me. I don’t just mean compounding money either. It’s in terms of understanding the world and what kind of friends you accumulate. You get to select over time, and you’ve got to be the kind of person that the snow wants to attach itself to. You’ve got to be your own wet snow, in effect. You’d better be picking up snow as you go along, because you’re not going to be getting back up to the top of the hill again. That’s the way life works.’
  16. ‘It’s pleasant to go bed every night knowing there are 2.5 billion males in the world who will have to shave in the morning.’ Warren Buffett, on owning a stake in Gillette
  17. ‘Through no fault of their own, they were in a position of being a horse when the tractor arrived. The free market did them in. If you’re 55 and you speak Portuguese, and you’ve been working on a loom for 30 years and your hearing is shot, you’ve had it.’
  18. ‘..He just didn’t care what other people thought. My dad taught me how life should be lived. I’ve never seen anybody quite like him.’ Warren Buffett, on his dad (Howard Buffett)
  19. ‘We don’t bluff. It’s not my style anyway. Over a lifetime, you’ll get a reputation for either bluffing or not bluffing. And therefore, I want it to be understood that I don’t do it.’
  20. ‘Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you. I know people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners and get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. If you get to my age in life and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is, your life is a disaster.’
  21. ‘That’s the ultimate test of how you have lived your life. The trouble with love is that you can’t buy it. You can buy sex. You can buy testimonial dinners. You can buy pamphlets that say how wonderful you are. But the only way to get love is to lovable. It’s irritating if you have a lot of money. You’d like to think you could write a check: I’ll buy a million dollars’ worth of love. But it doesn’t work that way. The more you give love away, the more you get.’
  22. ‘Wealth is just a bunch of claim checks on the activities of others in the future. You can use that wealth in any way you want to. You can cash it in or give it away. But the idea of passing wealth from generation to generation so that hundreds of your descendants can command the resources of other people simply because they came from the right womb flies in the face of a meritocratic society.’
  23. ‘It’s what you do right now, today, that determines how your mind and body will operate ten, twenty and thirty years from now.’
  24. ‘…You only get one mind and one body. And it’s got to last a lifetime… But if you don’t take care of that mind and that body, they’ll be a wreck forty years later.’
  25. ‘People ask me where they should go to work, and I always tell them to go to work for whom they admire the most. It’s crazy to take little in-between jobs just because they look good on your resume. That’s like saving sex for old age. Do what you love and work for whom you admire the most, and you’ve given yourself the best chance in life you can.’

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Fiction quotes 151 to 200

  1. ‘It was the sort of idea that might easily decondition the more unsettled minds among the higher castes- make them lose their faith in happiness as the Sovereign Good and take believing, instead, that the goal was somewhere beyond, somewhere outside the present human sphere that the purpose of life was not the maintenance of well-being, but some intensification and refining of consciousness, some enlargement of knowledge.’ Mustapha Mond
  2. ‘We haven’t any use for old things. Particularly when they’re beautiful. Beauty’s attractive, and we don’t want people to be attracted by old things. We want them to like the new ones.’ Mustapha Mond
  3. ‘The world’s stable now. People are happy; they get what they want, and they never want what they can’t get. They’re well off; they’re safe; they’re never ill; they’re not afraid of death; they’re blissfully ignorant of passion and old age; they’re plagued with no mothers or fathers; they’ve got no wives, or children, or lovers to feel strongly about; they’re so conditioned that they practically can’t help behaving as they ought to behave. And if anything should go wrong, there’s soma.’ Mustapha Mond
  4. ‘But that’s the price we have to pay for stability. You’ve got to choose between happiness and what people used to call high art. We’ve sacrificed the high art. We have the feelies and the scent organ instead.’ Mustapha Mond
  5. ‘Stability isn’t nearly so spectacular as instability. And being contended has none of the glamour of a good fight against misfortune, none of the picturesqueness of a struggle with temptation, or a fatal overthrow by passion or doubt. Happiness is never grand.’ Mustapha Mond
  6. ‘That’s another item in the cost of stability. It isn’t only art that’s incompatible with happiness; it’s also science. Science is dangerous; we have to keep it most carefully chained and muzzled.’ Mustapha Mond
  7. ‘They say that it is the fear of death and of what comes after death that makes men turn to religion as they advance in years.’ Mustapha Mond
  8. ‘The religious sentiment tends to develop as we grow older; to develop because, as the passions grow calm, as the fancy and sensibilities are less excited and less excitable, our reason become less troubled in its working, less obscured by the images, desires and distractions, in which it used to be absorbed…that phenomenal existence is no more bolstered up by impressions from within or from without, we feel the need to lean on something that abides, something that will never play us false – a reality, an absolute and everlasting truth.’ Mustapha Mond
  9. ‘God isn’t compatible with machinery and scientific medicine and universal happiness. You must make your choice. Our civilization has chosen machinery and medicine and happiness. That’s why I have to keep these religious books locked up in the safe…’ Mustapha Mond
  10. ‘Civilization has absolutely no need of nobility or heroism. These things are symptoms of political inefficiency. In our society, nobody has any opportunities for being noble or heroic. Conditions have got to be thoroughly unstable before the occasion can arise. When there are wars, where there are divided allegiances, where there are temptations to be resisted, objects of love to be fought for or defended – there, obviously, nobility and heroism have some sense. But there aren’t any wars nowadays.’ Mustapha Mond
  11. ‘But I don’t want comfort. I want God, I want poetry, I want real danger, I want freedom, I want goodness. I want sin…All right then, I’m claiming the right to be unhappy.’ The Savage
  12. ‘I’d rather you shot at tin cans with your air-rifle in the backyard, but I know you’ll go after birds. Shoot all the bluejays you want, if you can hit them, but remember that it’s a sin to kill a mockingbird.’ Atticus Finch, to his children (To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee)
  13. ‘If you want the rainbow, you have to deal with the rain…’ Hazel Grace (The Fault in Our Stars by John Green)
  14. ‘First of all, if you can learn a simple trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view…until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.’ Atticus
  15. ‘…But do one thing for me if you will: you just hold your head high and keep those fists down. No matter what anybody says to you, don’t you let them get your goat. Try fighting with your head for a change…it’s a good one, even if it resists learning.’ Atticus Finch
  16. ‘Sometimes, we have to make the best of things, and the way we conduct ourselves when the chips are down.’ Atticus Finch
  17. ‘They’re certainly entitled to think that, and they’re entitled to full respect for their opinions. But before I can live with other folks I’ve got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.’ Atticus Finch
  18. ‘I certainly am a nigger-lover. I do my best to love everybody…I’m hard put, sometimes – baby, it’s never an insult to be called what somebody thinks is a bad name. It just shows you how poor that person is, it doesn’t hurt you. So don’t let Mrs Dubose get you down. She has enough troubles of her own.’ Atticus Finch
  19. ‘I wanted you to see something about her – I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do.’ Atticus Finch
  20. ‘You know the truth, and the truth is this: some Negroes lie, some Negroes are immoral, some Negro men are not to be trusted around women – black or white. But that is a truth that applies to the human race and to no particular race of men. There is not a person in this courtroom who has never told a lie, who has never done an immoral thing, and there is no man living who has never looked upon a woman without desire.’ Atticus Finch
  21. ‘…Thomas Jefferson once said that all men are created equal…We know that all men are not created equal in the sense that some people would have us believe – some people are smarter than others, some people have more opportunity because they’re born with it, some men make more money than others, some ladies make better cakes than others – some people are born gifted beyond the normal scope of most men.’ Atticus Finch
  22. ‘Our courts have their faults, as does every human institution, but in this country our courts are the greatest levellers, and in our courts all men are created equal.’ Atticus Finch
  23. ‘I know, and lots of them probably deserve it, too – but in the absence of eye witnesses there’s always a doubt, sometimes only the shadow of a doubt. The law says reasonable doubt. But I think a defendant’s entitled to the shadow of a doubt. There’s always the possibility, no matter how improbable, that he’s innocent.’ Atticus Finch
  24. ‘As you grow older, you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it – whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, or how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.’ Atticus Finch
  25. ‘You’ve many more miles to go, son. A jury’s vote supposed to be secret. Serving on a jury forces a man to make up his mind and declare himself about something. Men don’t like to do that. Sometimes it’s unpleasant.’ Atticus Finch
  26. ‘That’s what I thought too when I was your age. If there’s one kind of folks, why can’t they get along with each other? If they’re all alike, why do they go out of their way to despise each other?’ Jem
  27. ‘I can’t live one way in town and another way in my home.’ Atticus Finch
  28. ‘Two penguins in the penguin house were a little bit different. One was named Roy, and the other named Silo. Roy and Silo were both boys. But they did everything together. They bowed to each other. And walked together. They sang to each other and swam together. Wherever Roy went, Silo went too. They didn’t spend much time with the girl penguins and the girl penguins didn’t spend much time with them’ Peter Parnell and Justin Richardson (And Tango makes three)
  29. ‘Roy and Silo taught Tango how to sing for them when she was hungry. They fed her food from their beaks. They snuggled her in their nest at night. Tango was the very first penguin in the zoo to have two daddies.’ Peter Parnell and Justin Richardson (And Tango makes three)
  30. Atticus Finch captivated me with his measured, intelligent espousal of the importance of equality, democracy and justice for all.
  31. ‘Well educated, diligent and genial, Finch also has the courage of his convictions. Not only does he defend African American Tom Robinson, wrongly accused of raping a white woman – much to the chagrin of the majority of his fellow (white) townsfolk – he then sits outside the jailhouse to protect Robinson from a lynch mob.’
  32. ‘The worst form of execution: You stake a guy out on an anthill in the desert. He’s facing upward, and you put honey all over his balls and pecker, and you cut off his eyelids so he has to stare at the sun till he dies.’ Weary (Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut)
  33. ‘Earthlings must be the terrors of the Universe! If other planets aren’t now in danger from Earth, they soon will be. So tell me the secret so I can take it back to Earth and save us all: How can a planet live at peace?’ Billy, to aliens on planet Tralfamadoria (Slaughterhouse-Five by Kurt Vonnegut)
  34. ‘There once was an onion man who wanted to shed his layers to unveil the core of his soul and being. What does it mean to be an onion, he wondered? He started shedding the layers. After a while, he grew lighter and more hopeful on finding the truth. Soon, he realized that he was left with nothing. The layers were all he had. Rephrased and Extracted from ‘Unapologetically Insane Tales by Zed Yeo’
  35. ‘If you put a puny ant on your torso, it could never understand that the entire terrain that it is crawling on is actually a human being. You are too huge for the ant to notice, too big to be perceived. It will only see your torso as a landscape upon which it stands.’ The Maker (Unapologetically Insane Tales by Zed Yeo)
  36. If he could just understand us…then perhaps we could come to some kind of arrangement with him… extracted from ‘Metamorphosis by Franz Kafka’
  37. ‘The Boy and the Grass (Story 3): A boy asked the grass how it felt to be green. The grass didn’t respond. The boy was disappointed but didn’t give up trying to talk to it. He kept on trying. Finally, when he was a grown man, the grass replied. One day, the grass said ‘Moo!’ That was the only response it could give. ‘Moo!’ was all the grass knew. Despite this, the boy continued talking to it and they formed an interesting, relationship for life. rephrased and extracted from ‘Unapologetically Insane Tales’ by Zed Yeo
  38. ‘The Boy and the Grass (Story 2): A boy asked the grass how it felt to be green. The grass didn’t respond. The boy was disappointed but didn’t give up trying to talk to it. He kept on trying. Finally, when he was a grown man, the grass replied. The grass was impressed by his persistence. The grass admitted that he learnt English from the boy. They remained best friends for the rest of their lives. rephrased and extracted from ‘Unapologetically Insane Tales by Zed Yeo’
  39. ‘The Boy and the Grass (Story 1): A boy asked the grass how it felt to be green. The grass didn’t respond. The boy was disappointed but didn’t give up trying to talk to it. He kept on trying. This went on for his lifetime till he died. The grass still didn’t speak. rephrased and extracted from ‘Unapologetically Insane Tales by Zed Yeo’
  40. ‘The glad game was to just find something about everything to be glad about – no matter what it was…You see, when you’re hunting for the glad things, you sort of forget the other kind.’ – Pollyanna
  41. ‘You see, lots of times; you get so used to looking for something to be glad about. And most generally there is something about everything that you can be glad about, if you keep hunting long enough to find it.’ – Pollyanna
  42. ‘I like to do almost everything that’s LIVING. Of course I don’t like the other things very well – sewing, and reading out loud, and all that. But THEY aren’t LIVING. Aunt Polly says they’re “learning to live”.’ – Pollyanna
  43. ‘People radiate what is in their minds and in their hearts. If a man feels kindly and obliging, his neighbours will feel that way, too, before long. But if he scolds and scowls and criticizes – his neighbors will return scowl for scowl, and add interest! When you look for the bad, expecting it, you will get it. When you know you will find the good – you will get that!’ – Reverent Paul
  44. ‘I don’t think I shall ever want to ride anywhere anymore. It will be so good just to walk. Oh, I’m so glad! I’m glad for everything. Why, I’m glad now I lost my legs for a while, for you never, never know how perfectly lovely legs are till you haven’t got them.’ – Pollyanna
  45. ‘You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape it one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present.’ Alaska
  46. ‘Things that did not go right, things that seemed okay at the time because we could not see the future…If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions. But we can’t know better until knowing better is useless.’ Miles Halter
  47. ‘We need never be hopeless, because we can never be irreparably broken. We think that we are invincible because we are. We cannot be born, and we cannot die. Like all energy, we can only change shapes and sizes and manifestations. They forget that when they get old. They get scared of losing and failing. But that part of us greater than the sum of our parts cannot begin and cannot end, and so it cannot fail. ‘Miles Halter
  48. ‘The problem, dear professor, is that you wanted someone who could be made intelligent but still be kept in a cage and displayed when necessary to reap the honours you seek. The hitch is that I’m a person.’ Charlie Gordon (Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keyes)
  49. ‘I don’t think it’s right to make you pass a test to eat.’ Charlie Gordon, reflecting on the treatment of the lab mouse Algernon (Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keyes)
  50. ‘Lawyers are all right, but they don’t appeal to me. They’re all right if they go around saving innocent guys’ lives. But you don’t do that kind of stuff if you’re a lawyer. All you do is make a lot of money and play golf and play bridge and buy cars and drink Martinis and look like a hot-shot. And besides, even if you did go around saving guy’s lives, how would you know if you did it because you really wanted to save guys’ lives, or because you did it because you really wanted to be a terrific lawyer, with everyone slapping you on the back and congratulating you in court when the trial is over, the reporters and everybody, the way it is in the movies? How would you know you weren’t being a phony? The trouble is, you wouldn’t.’ Holden Caulfield

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Fiction quotes 101 to 150

  1. I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them. – Charlie
  2. ‘Once a King in Narnia, always a King in Narnia. But don’t go trying to use the same route to Narnia twice. Indeed, don’t try to get there at all. It’ll happen when you’re not looking for it.’ The Professor (The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis)
  3. ‘No, men don’t catch anything. They just keep trotting back and forth across the bridge thinking there is something better on the other side. If they’d hang-down at the top of the thing and wait quietly, maybe something good would come along. But no – with men it’s rush, rush, rush, every minute. I’m glad I’m a sedentary spider.’ Charlotte (Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White)
  4. ‘Life is always a rich and steady time when you are waiting for something to happen or hatch.’ E.B. White (Charlotte’s Web)
  5. ‘It means that though the Witch knew the deep magic, there is a magic deeper still which she did not know. Her knowledge goes back only to the dawn of time. But if she could have looked a little further back, into the stillness and the darkness before Time dawned, she would have read there a different incantation. She would have known that when a willing victim who had committed no treachery was killed in a traitor’s stead, the Table would crack and Death itself would start working backward.’ Aslan
  6. ‘Those who can’t keep up – that is, children, dwarfs and small animals – must ride on the backs of those who can – that is, lions, centaurs, unicorns, horses, giants and eagles. Those who are good with their noses must come in the front with us lions to smell out where the battle is. Look lively and sort yourselves.’ Aslan
  7. ‘…And don’t mention it to anyone else unless you find that they’ve had adventures of the same sort themselves. What’s that? How will you know? Oh, you’ll know all right. Off things they say- even their looks – will let the secret out. Keep your eyes open.’ The Professor
  8. ‘What do you mean, I mean less than nothing to you? I don’t think there is any such thing as less than nothing. Nothing is absolutely the limit of nothingness. It’s the lowest you can go. It’s the end of the line. How can something be less than nothing? If there was something that was less than nothing, then nothing would not be nothing, it would be something – even though it’s just a very little bit of something. But if nothing is nothing, then nothing has nothing that is less than it is.’ Wilbur, to the chicken
  9. ‘When your stomach is empty and your mind is full, it’s always hard to sleep.’ E.B. White
  10. ‘Well, who taught a spider? A young spider knows how to spin a web without any instructions from anybody. Don’t you regard that as a miracle?… I’m a doctor. Doctors are supposed to understand everything. But I don’t understand everything and I don’t intend to let it worry me.’ Dr Dorian
  11. ‘Children pay better attention than grown-ups…Perhaps if people talked less, animals would talk more. People are incessant talkers – I can give you my word on that.’ Dr Dorian
  12. ‘In the daytime, Wilbur usually felt happy and confident. No pig ever had truer friends, and he realized that friendship is one of the most satisfying things in the world.’ E.B. White
  13. ‘Wilbur, you have been a friend. That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what’s a life anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die. A spider’s life can’t help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift me up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anybody’s life can stand a little of that.’ Charlotte
  14. ‘Well, I’m no good at making speeches. I haven’t got your gifts for words. But you saved me, Charlotte, and I would gladly give my life to you – I really would.’ Wilbur
  15. ‘Wilbur never forgot Charlotte. Although he loved her children and grandchildren dearly, none of the new spiders ever took her place in his heart. She was in a class by herself. It is not often that someone comes along who is a true friend and a good writer. Charlotte was both.’ E.B. White
  16. ‘You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.’ (Oh, the Places You’ll Go! By Dr Seuss)
  17. ‘You’ll come down from the lurch with an unpleasant bump. And the chances are, then, that you’ll be in a Slump. And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.’ Dr Seuss
  18. ‘The waiting place: for people just waiting. Waiting for a train to go, or a bus to come, or a plane to go, or the mail to come, or the rain to go, or the rain to go, or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or No or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is waiting.’ Dr Seuss
  19. ‘I’m afraid that some times you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win ‘cause you’ll play against you. All Alone! Whether you like it or not, Alone will be something you’ll quite a lot. And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants. There are some, down the road between hither and yon, that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.’ Dr Seuss
  20. ‘But on you will go, though the weather be foul. On you will go though your enemies prowl. On you will go though the Hakken-Kraks howl. Onward up many a frightening creek, though your arms may get sore and your sneakers may leak. On and on you will hike and I know you’ll hike for and face up to your problems whatever they are.’ Dr Seuss
  21. ‘Step with care and great tact and remember that life’s a great balancing act.’ Dr Seuss
  22. ‘That is true. You see, I don’t mind my legs and arms and body being stuffed, because I cannot get hurt. If anyone treads on my toes or sticks pin in me, it doesn’t matter, for I can’t feel it. But I do not want people to call me a fool, and if my head stays stuffed with straw instead of with brains, as yours is, how am I ever to know anything?’ The Scarecrow (The Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum)
  23. ‘It must be inconvenient to be made of flesh, for you must sleep, and eat and drink. However, you have brains, and it is worth a lot of bother to be able to think properly.’ The Scarecrow
  24. ‘I shall take the heart, for brains do not make one happy, and happiness is the best thing in this world.’ The Tin Man
  25. ‘You don’t need brains, Mr Scarecrow. You are learning something every day. A baby has brains, but it doesn’t know much. Experience is the only thing that brings knowledge, and the longer you are on Earth the more experience you are sure to get.’ The Wizard of Oz
  26. ‘You have plenty of courage, Lion. I am sure. All you need is confidence in yourself. There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. True courage is in facing danger when you are afraid, and that kind of courage you have in plenty.’ The Wizard of Oz
  27. ‘There is an ecstasy that marks the summit of life, and beyond which life cannot rise. And such is the paradox of living, this ecstasy comes when one is most alive, and it comes as a complete forgetfulness that one is alive.’ Jack London (Call of the Wild)
  28. ‘The thing about exploring is that you have to know whether the thing you’ve found is worth finding. Some things are just sitting there, minding their own business, waiting to be discovered. Like America. And other things are probably better off alone. Like a dead mouse at the back of a cupboard.’ Bruno (The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne)
  29. ‘All that crap they have in cartoons and all, showing guys on street corners looking sore as hell because their dates are late – that’s bunk. If a girl looks swell when she meets you, who gives a damn if she’s late? Nobody.’ Holden (The Catcher in the Rye)
  30. ‘If you do something too good, then, after a while, if you don’t watch it, you start showing off. And then you’re not as good anymore.’ Holden Caulfield (The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger)
  31. ‘I mean I’ve left schools and places I didn’t even know I was leaving them. I hate that. I don’t care if it’s a sad goodbye or a bad goodbye, but when I leave a place I like to know I’m leaving it. If you don’t, you feel even worse.’ Holden Caulfield
  32. ‘Life is a game? Game, my ass. Some game. If you get on the side where all the hot-shots are, then it’s a game, all right – I’ll admit that. But if you get on the other side, where there aren’t any hot-shots, then what’s a game about it? Nothing. No game.’ Holden Caulfield
  33. ‘Finally Ackley came over and asked me who was going to the movies besides me. He always had to know who was going. I swear, if that guy was shipwrecked somewhere, and you rescued him in a goddamn boat, he’d want to know who the guy was that was rowing before he’d even get in.’ Holden Caulfield
  34. ‘I think if you don’t really like a girl, you shouldn’t horse around with her at all, and if you do like her, then you’re supposed to like her face, and if you like her face, you ought to be careful about doing crumby stuff to it, like squirting water all over it.’ Holden Caulfield
  35. ‘That’s the thing about girls. Every time they do something pretty, even if they’re not much to look at, or even if they’re sort of stupid, you fall half in love with them, and then you never know where the hell you are. Girls. They drive you crazy. They really can.’ Holden Caulfield
  36. ‘There isn’t any night club in the world you can sit in for a long time unless you can at least buy some liquor and get drunk. Or unless you’re with some girl that really knocks you out.’ Holden Caulfield
  37. ‘I’m always saying “Glad to have met you” to somebody I’m not at all glad I met. If you want to stay alive, you have to say that stuff, though.’ Holden Caulfield
  38. ‘You kept wondering what the hell would happen to all the girls when they got out of school and college, I mean. You figured most of them would probably marry dopey guys. Guys that always talk about how many miles they get to a gallon in their goddamn cars. Guys that get sore and childish as hell if you beat them at golf, or even just some stupid game like ping-pong. Guys that are very mean. Guys that never read books. Guys that are very boring… I don’t understand boring guys.’ Holden Caulfield
  39. ‘It is a funny thing about girls. Every time you mention some guy that’s strictly a bastard – very mean, or very conceited and all – and when you mention it to the girl, she’ll tell you he has an inferiority complex…Girls, you never know what they’re going to think.’ Holden Caulfield
  40. ‘The trouble with girls is, if they like a boy, no matter how big a bastard he is, they’ll say he has an inferiority complex, and if they don’t like him, no matter how nice a guy he is, or how big an inferiority complex he has, they’ll say he’s conceited. Even smart girls do it.’ Holden Caulfield
  41. ‘It’s funny. You take adults, they look lousy when they’re asleep and have their mouths way open, but kids don’t. Kids look all right. They can even have spit all over their pillow and they still look all right.’ Holden Caulfield
  42. ‘I mean is, lots of time you don’t know what interests you most till you start talking about something that doesn’t interest you most. I mean you can’t help it sometimes. You’re supposed to leave somebody alone if he’s at least being interesting and he’s getting all excited about something. I like it when that happens. It’s nice.’ Holden Caulfield
  43. ‘The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of a mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.’ Wilhelm Stekel
  44. ‘It is not true that only educated and scholarly men are able to contribute something valuable to the world. But such educated men who are brilliant and creative to begin with, tend to leave infinitely more valuable records behind than those who are merely brilliant and creative. They tend to express themselves more clearly and usually have a passion for following their thoughts to the end.’ Mr Antolini
  45. ‘The worst part of holding the memories is not the pain. It’s the loneliness of it. Memories need to be shared.’ The Giver (The Giver by Lois Lowry)
  46. ‘How many goodly creatures are there here! How beauteous mankind it! O brave new world…’ John the Savage (Brave New World by Aldous Huxley)
  47. ‘And that is the secret of happiness and virtue – liking what you’ve got to do. All conditioning aims at that: making people like their unescapable social destiny.’ Mustapha Mond
  48. ‘What I’m going to tell you now may sound incredible. But then, when you’re not accustomed to history, most facts about the past do sound incredible.’ The Director
  49. ‘Looking at the sea makes me feel as though as though I were more me, if you see what I mean. More on my own, not so completely a part of something else. Not just a cell in the social body.’ Bernard
  50. ‘The greater a man’s talents, the greater his power to lead astray. It is better that one should suffer than that many should be corrupted. No offence is so heinous as unorthodoxy of behavior. Murder kills only the individual – and after all, what is an individual? We can make a new one with the greatest ease – as many as we like. Unorthodoxy threatens more than the life of a mere society; it strikes at Society itself.’ Henry

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Psychology quotes 151 to 200

  1. ‘Restaurants will centre-align their menu to make it more difficult to compare prices. If you right-justify items, customers can more easily compare and will be less likely to go for more expensive items.’ Charles Spence
  2. ‘Having an outrageously expensive item is both likely to get publicity for a restaurant, and will also get people to spend more. People think ‘I wonder if anyone ever orders that?’, without realising that its true purpose is to make the next most expensive item seem cheaper.” Charles Spence, a psychologist
  3. ‘Studies have shown that gratitude sparks an upward spiral of relationship growth where each individual feels motivated to strengthen the bond.’ Shawn Achor
  4. ‘Think of going to a restaurant for example, having low expectations may improve your dining experience if the food is better than expected. But having positive expectations may improve your happiness before the meal even starts because of your anticipation of the event.’ Melissa Hogenboom
  5. ‘The brain is trying to figure out what you should be doing in the world to get rewards, so all the decisions, expectations and the outcomes are information it’s using to make sure you make good decisions in the future. All of the recent expectations and rewards combine to determine your current state of happiness.’ Dr Robb Rutledge
  6. “The study also finds that your immediate sense of happiness depends on the size of the gap between what you achieve and what you expect. That makes good intuitive sense. It also fits with a great deal of statistical work by economists showing that happiness and job satisfaction is influenced by a person’s relative pay,” Professor Andrew Oswald
  7. “If you want to know how happy I am, don’t ask me my salary. Ask me how my salary compares to other professors or to my own salary in the past. It is the gap – whether positive or negative – that really matters. We are all creatures of comparisons and are thus prisoners of implicit expectations.” Prof Andrew Oswald
  8. ‘I started doing comedy because that was the only stage that I could find. It was the pure idea of being on stage. That was the only thing that interested me, along with learning the craft and working, and just being in productions with people.’ Robin Williams (1951 – 2014)
  9. ‘It’s very difficult to compete without feeling envy. A wise friend once told me that every time you try to compete, you’ll always lose. Because even if you’re the best this year, someone will be better than you next year.’ Carl Richards
  10. ‘Every status update you read on Facebook, every tweet or text message you get from a friend, is competing for resources in your brain with important things like whether to put your savings in stocks or bonds, where you left your passport or how best to reconcile with a close friend you just had an argument with.’ Daniel J. Levitin
  11. ‘Here’s the problem with bigger numbers and endless possibility: They don’t go well with humans. We don’t have the processing power. Dating is not simply about finding like-minded people, but about limiting your potential set of choices.’ Leah Reich
  12. ‘When the number of options increases, we become maximizers — unsatisfied with those options, and wanting more. On Tinder, we can judge, swipe and date as if there is an unlimited number of matches. When faced with boundless choices, can we ever choose?’ Leah Reich
  13. ‘Even without computers and phones, long before screens, we’ve always wondered, “But is there someone better?” There’s a simple reason for that, although the simple reason does not have a simple solution: Dating involves humans. We are strange creatures, sometimes brutal, not always photogenic, often delicate. We’re fascinated by metrics, big pictures and endless horizons of possibility. And we always, always want more.’ Leah Reich
  14. “You might be going for a walk or grocery shopping or doing something that doesn’t require sustained attention and suddenly — boom — the answer to a problem that had been vexing you suddenly appears. This is the mind-wandering mode, making connections among things that we didn’t previously see as connected.” Anna North
  15. ‘The best way to get someone to tell you what they know is to share your own knowledge too.’ Quinn Norton
  16. ‘If you are genuinely interested in people, it’s not that hard to get them to teach you. You do have to do some homework first so that you’re asking interesting questions, not totally elementary ones.’ Quinn Norton
  17. ‘When I need help myself, I would prefer to be pointed to information, not have someone walk me through it, because there’s that sense of discovery and learning on my own and not being handheld through the whole process.’ Jim Munroe
  18. ‘One of the things that sheep are really good at is responding to a threat (sheepdog etc) by working with their neighbours. It’s the selfish herd theory: put something between the threat and you. Individuals try to minimise the chance of anything happening to them, so they move towards the centre of a group.’ Dr. Andrew King, on how sheepdogs get sheep to gather and move as a group
  19. ‘The thing about going crazy is that it makes you incredibly smart, in a stupid sort of way.’ Neil Simon
  20. ‘Moreover, the psychologists Priyanka Carr and Gregory Walton of Stanford have shown that merely believing you are working with another person, compared with separately, can make you more interested in a task and less mentally exhausted by it.’ Paul A. O’Keefe
  21. ‘Taken together, interest in a task matters more than we ever knew. It is crucial to keeping us motivated and effective without emptying our mental gas tank, and it can turn the mundane into something exciting.’ Paul A. O’Keefe
  22. ‘I believe that if one always looked at the skies, one would end up with wings.’ Gustave Flaubert
  23. ‘Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back everything is different.’ C.S. Lewis
  24. ‘One of the enemies of sound, lifelong motivation is a rather childish conception we have of the kind of concrete, describable goal toward which all of our efforts drive us…So you scramble and sweat and climb to reach what you thought was the goal. When you get to the top you stand up and look around and chances are you feel a little empty. Maybe more than a little empty…You wonder whether you climbed the wrong mountain.’ John Gardner
  25. ‘The thing you have to understand is that the capacities you actually develop to the full come out as the result of an interplay between you and life’s challenges –and the challenges keep changing. Life pulls things out of you.’ John Gardner
  26. ‘The thankful receiver bears a plentiful harvest.’ William Blake
  27. ‘Blessed are those who give without remembering and take without forgetting.’ Elizabeth Bibesco
  28. ‘Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet.’ Jean-Jacques Rousseau
  29. ‘There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state with another, nothing more. He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness.’ Alexandre Dumas
  30. “Individuals are more likely to mispredict the value of rediscovering ordinary events than to mispredict the value of rediscovering extraordinary events, which are more memorable. Additionally, ordinary events came to be perceived as more extraordinary over time, whereas perceptions of extraordinary events did not change across time.” Ting Zhang
  31. ‘The findings suggest you shouldn’t feel bad if you’re compelled to blog about your day, tweet about what you had for lunch, or Instagram that photo of a pretty sunset. The post may come in handy when you’re in a bad mood sometime down the line.’ Ting Zhang
  32. ‘Our research shows that we can find joy in journalling about ordinary events, and importantly, later rediscovering those journal entries at a future point in time,” Ting Zhang
  33. ‘Writing about everyday things could be valuable for all sorts of reasons. One is it helps to consolidate what you’ve done during that day, another is just as a marker of what you’ve done — you could go back and look at it.’ James W. Pennebaker
  34. ‘People are happier to the extent that they find their lives easy rather than difficult. Happy people say they have enough money to buy the things they want and the things they need. Good health is a factor that contributes to happiness but not to meaningfulness. Healthy people are happier than sick people, but the lives of sick people do not lack meaning.’ Roy F Baumeister
  35. ‘If you want to maximise your happiness, it looks like good advice to focus on the present, especially if your needs are being satisfied. Meaning, on the other hand, seems to come from assembling past, present and future into some kind of coherent story.’ Roy F Baumeister
  36. ‘In empirical fact, happiness is often fairly consistent over time. Those of us who are happy today are also likely to be happy months or even years from now, and those who are unhappy about something today commonly turn out to be unhappy about other things in the distant future. It feels as though happiness comes from outside, but the weight of evidence suggests that a big part of it comes from inside.’ Roy F Baumeister
  37. ‘Simply put, meaningfulness comes from contributing to other people, whereas happiness comes from what they contribute to you.’ Roy F Baumeister
  38. ‘For parents, on the other hand, caring for children was a substantial source of meaning, though it still seemed irrelevant to happiness, probably because children are sometimes delightful and sometimes stressful and annoying, so it balances out.’ Roy F Baumeister
  39. ‘Spending time with friends was linked to higher happiness but it was irrelevant to meaning. Having a few beers with buddies or enjoying a nice lunch conversation with friends might be a source of pleasure but, on the whole, it appears not to be very important to a meaningful life. By comparison, spending more time with loved ones was linked to higher meaning and was irrelevant to happiness.’ Roy F Baumeister
  40. ‘Highly meaningful lives encounter plenty of negative events, which of course reduce happiness. Indeed, stress and negative life events were two powerful blows to happiness, despite their significant positive association with a meaningful life.’ Roy F Baumeister
  41. ‘If happiness is about getting what you want, it appears that meaningfulness is about doing things that express yourself. Even just caring about issues of personal identity and self-definition was associated with more meaning.’ Roy F Baumeister
  42. ‘Marriage is a good example of how meaning pins down the world and increases stability. Most animals mate, and some do so for long periods or even for life, but only humans marry… Marriage smooths out these bumps and helps to stabilize the relationship.’ Roy F Baumeister
  43. ‘There are 4 elements of a meaningful life. 1) Purpose (reproduction; culture; our own choices) 2) Value (good vs bad) 3) Efficacy (Making a difference to others); 4) Self-worth (perform decently so as to gain others’ respect).’ Roy F Baumeister
  44. ‘Enlightenment is man’s emergence from his self-imposed nonage. Nonage is the inability to use one’s own understanding without another’s guidance. This nonage is self-imposed if its cause lies not in lack of understanding but in indecision and lack of courage to use one’s own mind without another’s guidance…”Have the courage to use your own understanding,” is therefore the motto of the enlightenment.’ Immanuel Kant
  45. ‘Short men make better husbands, and make up in wisdom what they lack in stature.’ Adam Gopnik
  46. ‘Give me a great novel or memoir, some tea, and a cozy spot to curl up in, and I’m in heaven. I love to live in another person’s thoughts; I marvel at the bonds I feel with people who come alive on the page, regardless of how different their circumstances might be from mine. I not only feel I know these people, but I also recognize more of myself. Insight, information, knowledge, inspiration, power: All that and more can come from a good book.’ Oprah Winfrey
  47. ‘Happiness is like an orgasm: if you think about it too much, it goes away.’ Tim Minchin
  48. ‘Unsurprisingly, a majority of religious believers said they thought that these events happened for a reason and that they had been purposefully designed (presumably by God). But many atheists did so as well, and a majority of atheists in a related study also said that they believed in fate — defined as the view that life events happen for a reason and that there is an underlying order to life that determines how events turn out.’ Konika Banerjee
  49. ‘WHATEVER the origin of our belief in life’s meaning, it might seem to be a blessing. Some people find it reassuring to think that there really are no accidents, that what happens to us — including the most terrible of events — reflects an unfolding plan.’ Konika Banerjee
  50. ‘But even those who are devout should agree that, at least here on Earth, things just don’t naturally work out so that people get what they deserve. If there is such a thing as divine justice or karmic retribution, the world we live in is not the place to find it. Instead, the events of human life unfold in a fair and just manner only when individuals and society work hard to make this happen.’ Konika Banerjee

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Motivational quotes 301 to 350

  1. ‘Your job is not to figure out how it’s going to happen for you, but to open the door in your head and when the doors open in real life, just walk through it. Don’t worry if you miss your cue. There will always be another door opening. They keep opening.’ Jim Carrey
  2. ‘And when I say, “life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you.” I really don’t know if that’s true. I’m just making a conscious choice to perceive challenges as something beneficial so that I can deal with them in the most productive way. You’ll come up with your own style, that’s part of the fun!’ Jim Carrey
  3. ‘You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world and after you walk through those doors today, you will only ever have two choices: love or fear. Choose love, and don’t ever let fear turn you against your playful heart.’ Jim Carrey
  4. ‘All great successes, all great lives have involved the coincidence of aptitude, talent but also the luck of meeting people who have believed in you. At some point in your life you need to meet someone who will tap you on the shoulder and say, “I believe in you.”‘ Arsene Wenger (Wenger the Legend by Jasper Rees)
  5. ‘To live in accordance with how one thinks. Be yourself and don’t try to impose your criteria on the rest. I don’t expect others to live like me. I want to respect people’s freedom, but I defend my freedom. And that comes with the courage to say what you think, even if sometimes others don’t share those views.’ Uruguayan President José Mujica, on happiness
  6. ‘If there is one lesson I can share from the experience it is this: share your truth. Whatever your truth is, live it, share it. The world will respond to you in ways you never could have imagined. Life will blow your socks off.’ Kamal Ravikant
  7. ‘Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.’ Joseph Campbell
  8. ‘The most dangerous poison is the feeling of achievement. The antidote is to every evening think what can be done better tomorrow.’ Ingvar Kamprad, IKEA founder
  9. ‘Attitude is about marrying the person you love(MPUL) and loving the person you marry (LPUM). Apply this concept of marriage to “all things you do.”‘ Chan Chun Sing
  10. ‘Success was a function of effort more than talent – with opportunities and chance thrown in. The sum of this should be greater than IMM (I, Me, Myself).’ Chan Chun Sing
  11. ‘How many pages have I produced? I don’t care. Are they any good? I don’t even think about it. All that matters is I’ve put in my time and hit it with all I’ve got. All that counts is that, for this day, for this session, I have overcome Resistance.’ Steven Pressfield
  12. ‘Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, magic, and power in it. Begin it now.’ Goethe
  13. ‘The more one does, the more one can do.’ Amelia Earhart
  14. ‘It is much more ennobling to the human spirit to let people judge themselves than to judge them.’ Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)
  15. ‘Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good or evil – the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the constant radiation of what man really is, not what he pretends to be.’ William George Jordan
  16. ‘Our level of development is fairly obvious with tennis or piano playing, where it is impossible to pretend. But it is not so obvious in the areas of character and emotional development.’ Stephen Covey
  17. ‘We must not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we began and to know the place for the first time.’ T. S. Elliot
  18. ‘Habits are like a cable. We weave a strand of it every day and soon it cannot be broken.’ Horace Mann
  19. ‘I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.’ Henry David Thoreau
  20. ‘Doing well academically certainly helps. But to succeed in life, raw intellectual ability needs to be coupled with other life skills such as the ability to communicate effectively, to cope with change, to overcome setbacks, and to work with and mobilise a team.’ Simon Chesterman
  21. ‘It turns out that our brains are literally hardwired to perform at their best not when they are negative or neutral, but when they are positive.’ Shawn Achor
  22. ‘Happiness is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can.’ Shawn Achor
  23. ‘More important still than believing in your own abilities is believing that you can improve these abilities.’ Carol Dweck
  24. ‘That is not to say that all jobs have equal meaning, but that even a rote or routine task can be meaningful if you find a good reason to be invested. You feel productive at the end of the day. You showed people that you were smart and efficient. You made life easier for customer…’ Shawn Achor
  25. ‘In other words, the people who can most successfully get themselves up off the mat are those who define themselves not by what has happened to them, but by what they can make out of what has happened. These are the people who actually use adversity to find the path forward.’ Shawn Achor
  26. ‘Research has shown that people who believe that the power lies within their control circle have higher academic achievement, greater career achievement, and are much happier at work.’ Shawn Achor
  27. ‘Studies have shown that the more team members are encouraged to socialize and interact face-to-face, the more engaged they feel, the more energy they have, and the longer they can stay focused on a task.’ Shawn Achor
  28. ‘A longer, 15-year study even found that employees who had a difficult relationship with their boss were 30% more likely to suffer from coronary heart disease. It seems a bad relationship with your boss can be as bad for you as a steady diet of fried foods – but not nearly as fun.’ Shawn Achor
  29. ‘Great people do things before they are ready. They do things before they know they can do it. Doing what you’re afraid of, getting out of your comfort zone, taking risks like that, that’s what life is. You might be really good. You might find out something about yourself that’s really special. And if you’re no good, who cares? You tried something. Now you know something about yourself.’ Amy Poehler
  30. ‘But the greatest liability of this group of graduates is precisely their history of success. It might seem churlish to point this out at a graduation ceremony, but the ability to do well in exams is a poor predictor for achievement in anything else.’ Simon Chesterman
  31. ‘It’s your life – but only if you make it so. The standards by which you live must be your own values, your own convictions in regard to what is right and wrong, what is important and what is trivial. When you adopt the standards and the values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. You become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being.’ Eleanor Roosevelt
  32. ‘People mature at different rates and their interests change. Students drop out of university. Many students go on to get jobs that have nothing to do with what they studied at university. How we are able to use the knowledge we have is often far more valuable than the knowledge itself.’ John Crace
  33. ‘You might be going for a walk or grocery shopping or doing something that doesn’t require sustained attention and suddenly — boom — the answer to a problem that had been vexing you suddenly appears. This is the mind-wandering mode, making connections among things that we didn’t previously see as connected.’ Daniel J. Levitin
  34. ‘If you want to be more productive and creative, and to have more energy, the science dictates that you should partition your day into project periods. Your social networking should be done during a designated time, not as constant interruptions to your day.’ Daniel J. Levitin
  35. ‘I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the sufferings of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you.’ Neil DeGrasse Tyson
  36. ‘Find what you love and let it kill you.’ Charles Bukowski
  37. ‘The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.’ Mark Twain
  38. ‘I think part of why people teach themselves things – why I do – is really for fascination or love or something that drives them to need what they’re learning. I’ve never known what it’s like to be uncurious.’ Karen Barbarossa
  39. ‘The beautiful thing about learning on your own is you have to be motivated about the subject to do it. Anyone can go through the motions at school, but self-learning may be the easiest way to find out what you’re good at.’ Charles Kinnane, a film-maker
  40. ‘When you’re learning something, it’s really important to not only to understand the system and context in which that thing functions, but also to look ahead and imagine what the world would be like with or without this thing.’ Rita J. King
  41. ‘I’ve found that, by and large, people who are passionate about the things that they do are very happy to engage with other people that are passionate about what they do.’ Dan Sinker
  42. ‘If you can’t unite making your living with the things you love, which is obviously ideal, then sometimes it’s best to keep them totally separate.’ Astra Taylor
  43. ‘Getting stuck for me has been one of the best teachers. It has taught me the huge difference between just knowing the answer, and knowing how to find the answer.’ Christopher Bathgate
  44. ‘In asking for their knowledge, people are even more willing and even more generous if you have done something to show that you’re interested and you’ve made a commitment on your end as well.’ Jeremy Cohen
  45. ‘I try to surround myself with incredibly smart people who are often, if not always, smarter than me. Because other people are so important to learning.’ Harper Reed
  46. ‘Try to learn as many things as possible and not be afraid to fail quickly and keep trying, or switch tracks. You’ll get experience and valuable lessons in a variety of fields, and you’ll occasionally stumble across things that you thought you were going to be bad at, and it turns out you’re pretty good at.’ Luke Muehlhauser
  47. ‘I’m really naturally interested in learning things, but there’s one way to guarantee that I lose interest, and that’s to tell me to be interested in it, even if I am.’ Zack Booth Simpson
  48. ‘If you write every day just a little bit, it just becomes a thing you do. It becomes much easier to do it even on days when you don’t feel like doing it, and especially on days when you’re not feeling it.’ Cory Doctorow
  49. ‘Few will have the greatness to bend history itself, but each of us can work to change a small portion of events. It is from numberless diverse acts of courage and belief that human history is shaped. Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.’ Robert F. Kennedy
  50. ‘Once you know yourself, the deliberate pursuit of more ordinary things can then deliver that same level of happiness. It doesn’t hurt, either, that you may appreciate the ordinary much more once you’re more aware of the decreasing number of years you have left to enjoy it.’ Ron Lieber

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Nelson Mandela quotes 26 to 50

  1. ‘I kissed and held my wife for the first time in all these many years. It was a moment I had dreamed about a thousand times. It was as if I were still dreaming. I held her for what seemed like an eternity…It had been 21 years since I had even touched my wife’s hand.’
  2. ‘It was tremendously frustrating not to be able to touch my wife, to speak tenderly to her, to have a private moment together. We had to conduct our relationship at a distance under the eyes of people we despised (prison wardens).’
  3. ‘In order for a hunger strike to succeed, the outside world must learn of it. Otherwise, the prisoners will simply starve themselves to death and no one will know.’
  4. ‘I have always believed exercise is not only a key to physical health but to peace of mind. Exercise dissipates tension, and tension is the enemy of serenity. I found that I worked better and thought more clearly when I was in good physical condition. In prison, having an outlet for one’s frustrations was absolutely essential.’
  5. ‘It was absolutely riveting to watch the simple activities of people out in the world: old men sitting in the sun, women doing their shopping, people walking their dogs. It is precisely those mundane activities of daily life that one misses most in prison.’
  6. ‘In prison, one can only question and resist an order to a certain point, then one must succumb.’
  7. ‘A leader must also tend his garden, he, too plants seeds, and then watches, cultivates, and harvests the result. Like the gardener, a leader must take responsibility for what he cultivates; he must mind his work, try to repel enemies, preserve what can be preserved, and eliminate what cannot succeed.’
  8. ‘I always knew that deep down in every human heart, there is mercy and generosity. No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than it’s opposite.’
  9. ‘But the decades of oppression and brutality had another unintended effect, and that was that it produced men of extraordinary courage, wisdom, and generosity that their like may never be known again. Perhaps it requires such depth of oppression to create such heights of character.’
  10. ‘Nonviolent passive resistance is effective as long as your opposition adheres to the same rules as you do. But if peaceful protest is met with violence, its efficacy is at an end.’
  11. ‘In life, every man has twin obligations – obligations to his family, to his parents, to his wife and children; and he has an obligation to his people, his community and his country.’
  12. ‘A man who takes away another man’s freedom is a prisoner of hatred, he is locked behind the bars of prejudice and narrow-mindedness.’
  13. ‘It is said that no one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails. A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but its lowest ones – and South Africa treated its imprisoned African citizens like animals.’
  14. ‘It is from these comrades in the struggle that I learned the meaning of courage. Time and again, I have seen men and women risk and give their lives for an idea. I have seen men stand up to attacks and torture without breaking, showing a strength and resiliency that defies the imagination.’
  15. ‘When your life is the struggle (for freedom), as mine was, there is little room left for family. That has always been my greatest regret, and the most painful aspect of the choice I made.’
  16. ‘I was prepared to tell the judge that I was prepared to die secure in the knowledge that my death would be an inspiration to the cause for which I was giving my life. My death would not be in vain; if anything we might serve the cause greater in death as martyrs than we ever could in life.’
  17. An appeal (for a shorter sentence) would undermine the moral stance we had taken. We had from the first maintained that what we had done, we had done proudly, and for moral reasons. We were not now going to suggest otherwise in an appeal.’
  18. ‘If you want to continue living in poverty without clothes and food, then go and drink in the shebeens (shop selling alcohol without a licence). But if you want better things, you must work hard. We cannot do it all for you; you must do it yourselves.’
  19. ‘The state was responsible for the violence and that is always the oppressor, not the oppressed, who dictates the form of the struggle. If the oppressor uses violence, the oppressed have no alternative but to respond violently.
  20. ‘But I have discovered the secret that after climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb…But I can rest only for a moment, for with freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk is not yet ended.’
  21. ‘Prison life is about routine: each day like the day like the one before; each week like the one before it, so that the months and years blend into each other. Anything that departs from this pattern upsets the authorities, for routine is the sign of a well-run prison.’
  22. ‘The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.’
  23. ‘Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed towards the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lay defeat and death.’
  24. ‘Music is a great blessing. It has the power to elevate and liberate us. It sets people free to dream. It can unite us to sing with one voice. Such is the value of music.’
  25. ‘It was this desire for the freedom of my people to live their lives with dignity and self-respect that animated my life, that transformed a frightened young man into a bold one, that drove a law-abiding attorney to become a criminal, that turned a family-loving husband into a man without a home, that forced a life-loving man to live like a monk.’

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