Dating Tips 202

Online Dating by Remi Kapler

Cheat Codes of Love. This book has tips on how to succeed in online dating. Finding time to scour different venues like bars etc may be too tiring. There is no fairy tale in romance. One way to meet people is to use online dating. There are benefits to online dating. If your offline dating is futile, do consider online dating. There is no loss.

Internet Dating 101 – A Tell-All Guide. Learn to decipher online dating. Technology may be able to help you connect with more people. It is human nature to seek romantic relationships. Technology is trying to make things more convenient for everyone. What are some of the pros and cons of online dating? There will always be risks and horror stories associated with online dating. Although there are scams, have faith that everything will be fine. Some of the pros are: 1) no more late night visits to the singles bar. Even if you scout at a bar, your chances are minimal at best. Girls in a bar are also rarely serious in how they act. 2) Online dating offers good variety. Your aim is to find love. At a bar, usually, it sends up with sex on the first date and this spoils the whole relationship from this point onwards. There is no alcohol involved in online dating, so it is much healthier and safer. 3) In offline dating, you don’t know who you will get, whether she is attached or whatever. Online dating is better as you can filter by criteria. This ensures that it is not a pure shot in the dark. 4) Great First Dates. If you have chatted with the person beforehand, there is a high chance that the date will be a success. You will also not feel as nervous as meeting a complete stranger. Now, we need to look at the cons as well. However, it is possible to mitigate the cons. 1) Internet Scammers – these are people with fake profiles. Dating scammers get close to you and want some information from you in the end. It is important to be wary of such people. He might want things like money, gifts from you. The scammer will often claim to have a medical emergency, requiring fast cash. Do not fall prey to those scammers at any cost. Watch out for tell-tale scamming signs. A scammer will often say things that are not consistent with their profile. Do not tempted to send personal information. Always meet at a public area. 2) Many people fall prey to the ‘shopping mentality’ for dating. This indicates a lack of commitment to take things further. 3) Your personal data belongs to the app and might be taken away from you in a lawsuit etc. 4) There might be security issues/misrepresentation on the apps.

Most online dating platforms make it easy to specify your exact needs and sieve everything not meeting your criteria. This removes the guessing bit and wild guess aspect of dating. Further, before you get to interact with matches’ before you go on the first date, you get an ideal chance to decipher whether someone is worth the trouble of a date or not way before you plan the first date. – Remi Kapler

Your Quest for Online Love Starts Here. There are many specific sites for exactly what you are looking out for. Find the one that best suits your needs. OkCupid and Tinder are the 2 most popular apps/websites around. Tinder is the new type of dating. Decide what type of relationship you want. This is really very important. You must answer them truthfully. Always be honest with your dates and learn to be vulnerable. Do not lie about your profile. Exercise patience. Do not pass off judgment too quickly. Tinder is one of the best dating apps around. It is also easy to use. As it is an image driven app, it is important to have a good clear photo of yourself. It should show you having fun and enjoying yourself and showing how awesome your life is.

How to create a beautiful outstanding online dating profile? Choose your username prudently. Be creative and come up with an interesting name. Be cheeky and let your personality shine through. Hook them with your headline and bio. Use an inspiring quote. After reading, someone should feel a sense of excitement. Write your profile in as little words as possible. Avoid using the words ‘I’. Make your profile stand out with your likes and activities. You will definitely want to sell yourself. You will definitely want to appear different and unique. Let the picture do the talking. Avoid bathroom or mirror selfies.

Your Boot Camp Guide to Online Dating Profile Photos. Your photos matter a great deal. Ensure all the pictures of yours are of similar standard. More is better. Try not to crop photos and others can tell. Try to show your left side of your face. Ensure a full length photo. Apply the three shot rule.

The three shot rule states the following: One of your profile images should have you looking straight at the camera and smiling. The second should show you engaged in something you like to do for fun. The third shot should show off your personality, whom you are as a person. – Remi Kapler

The Icing on the Cake – Going All-Out. Learn how to filter your matches and find the ideal love partners. Understand that some matches will click and others will not. You will need to learn how to open up conversation. Create a strategy of who you want to look out for. Keep a scoring system of those traits. Create curiosity from your profile. The best way to start a conversation is to find a common topic. Avoid dirty jokes that will make you seem perverted. Use correct grammar and avoid net speak. Simple, short and sweet works best. Answer a message in the same tone in which you received it. The next step, how should you plan your first date? As soon as you are comfortable with the person, ask the person out on a date. Just think of it as any other first date. Meet at a public area. Always prepare for anything good or bad as the first date may not go according to what you expected.

Your profile should not be a tell-all stop sign; you should leave room for some curiosity, or what we call creating a curiosity ‘gap’. Offer just enough information to inflame a curiosity that compels the ‘right’ matches to reach out. – Remi Kapler

The best way to start a conversation with someone you really like is to find common ground, make a comment about that, and immediately after, ask a question. Nothing makes someone, stranger or otherwise, experience the ‘you care’ emotion faster than a well-thought out question. – Remi Kapler

Ideally, your first message should make a simple introduction, highlight your interest in the person through a comment about something you have in common with that person, and a sign off with your name. This should amount to a few lines of text. The trick here is to leave him or her wanting and yearning for more. – Remi Kapler



Dating Tips 108

How to find a Girlfriend Through Online Dating by Blaine Bond

The Complete Guide to Finding Love, Sex and Happiness in the 21st century. Thre are limited places to go to find someone suitable. Online dating is a fairly new phenomenon. No one is born perfect. You just need to find someone you are comfortable with.

So You Want to Be In a Relationship…Right? What are you looking for? Short term or long term. Think about what you are looking for carefully. There are also perks for being single. Is your professional life stable already? Write down exactly what you are looking for in a women. You must know exactly what your beliefs are. This will save you a lot of time. It is important to find the dating site that will best meet your needs.

Finding a Dating Site that Elicits Cheers Instead of an Impending Sense of Doom. eHarmony is a good site. You can use this for serious relationships. is one of the most popular sites out there. However, you have to pay if you want to communicate with anyone. These sites allow you to indicate what you want to see in a partner. ‘Plenty of Fish’ is another viable option. Ok Cupid is one of the best free sites around. Other sites include Craigslist, Zoosk, Chemistry, Friend Finder. Always try and expand your social circles.

Creating an Awesome Profile That Will Make You Look Cool Rather than Weird and Desperate. It is important to post a clear photo which is decent looking. Do not try too hard and post a topless photo of yourself. The photo should be recent. Try not to wear shades. Go for photo-shoots and find your best possible photo to post. Post photos from crazy vacations. Post photos where you are actively engaged in activities. Let women know you like kids. Add captions to photos. Go for positive tag-lines. Browse quote websites and find something suitable. Ensure that what you say must be sincere and something you mean. If you don’t have much to say about yourself, get your friends to chip in and give your ideas. Talk about your favourite activities and your job. If you have a religion, you could mention it too. A unique description will help you stand out from the crowd. Note that your profile should not be excessively long. It is good to fill up the education section too. Education is something girls value. As for income, you should skip this section. Spirituality is an important consideration and you should fill it up. As for political beliefs, it’s your choice. It is important to have activities. Do not lie about height and weight. Above all, it is important to be genuine and truthful in your profile.

Another great option is to simply talk about what you do for a living and your favourite activities. Work and hobbies or other favourite activities are a great way to get to know more about someone and find out if you have shared interests. – Blaine Bond

The Types of Women You Meet Online. The first type is the divorcee. The next type could be the my-job-isn’t-great-for-meeting-guys chick. You might meet the real hot girl. However, it is important to understand that you should not simply compliment her looks. Do not address an older woman as a cougar as it is very rude indeed. Some girls are commitment crazy. Some of them are cat fishes.

Talking to Women Online. The first step is to be literate. Do not use short-forms or net speak unless you know her well. Patience is important when dating. Be respectful when asking questions over the site. Do not bombard her with questions. When you ask something, remember to answer how it applies to yourself. Some safe topics for discussion includes travel, school, food, work, concerts, siblings. Avoid topics like fetish, why you hate your family, affairs you had, sob stories, your ex-relationships. Try not to compliment her on her looks. This might come off as being cheesy and a pick-up line. In general, women loved being asked questions. If you add her on Facebook, your chances will improve. You might even want to add her on Instagram, Pinterest, Youtube etc. Learn to take the slow route. Try and progress to phone call and text if possible. At a minimum, you should chat for about a week before you suggest meeting face-to-face. On a first date, try to avoid meeting for drinks. This might send her the wrong signal that you want to get her drunk so that you can take advantage of her. A coffee date is a good idea. Eat breath mints.

Keep in mind that if she doesn’t respond, it’s not the best idea to continue messaging her. There’s nothing wrong with sending a follow-up message, as it is entirely possible she didn’t read it yet or hasn’t been on the site in a few days. If she still doesn’t respond to your second email, she probably isn’t interested, so move on. – Blaine Bond

To date multiple women at once, or not to date multiple women at once, that is the question. Although you may not get caught, it can be tiring. If you are interested in one girl, drop the rest. If you want a good time, it might be possible to date multiple girls at once. Talking to multiple women might speed up the process.

While it makes sense to talk to more than one woman rather than putting all your eggs in one proverbial basket, it’s still a good idea to try to establish a connection with each of them and see how it goes. Eventually you’ll have to settle on one and let the others down gently. – Blaine Bond

Nine Short Quizzes to Help You Out. A good message could be something like this: ‘Hi, I read your profile and I feel we have a few similar interests. How was your weekend? Do you [pick a hobby from her profile] often?’ It is good to ask questions about her work. It is not appropriate to bring the girl home on the first date. Coffee in the afternoon would seem good. To start a conversation, you can say ‘Have you been to this place before?’ Never criticize or complain when you meet her. Project an image that you have an awesome life. Always pay for the first date. Do not compliment her on her looks that make you seem perverted. It is okay to go out without carrying any accessories. You must impress on your first date if you want to still see her on the second date.

The Pitfalls of Online Dating and How to Cope. Don’t despair and continue looking. Don’t be bitter if she rejects you. Treat it as a learning lesson as you get to improve and understand better what you like in a girl. Serial dating can seem tiring. If you are jaded, take a long trip to recharge. You must seem energetic during the date. If she harasses you, report her on the app or block her.

Part of dating, whether online or not, is rejection. Should the rejection become more commonplace than actual interaction, think about your approach and how you can modify it. You may be coming on too strong, or too pervy. Remember to be respectful and genuine, and eventually the right girl will respond. – Blaine Bond


Dating Tips 107

The Secret to Having Confidence, Being a Man, and Getting Women

Medium Size Dicks Get Chicks by Patrick Withrow

You will learn the blueprint to have success in your life and relationships. Relationships are important as they will help us drive our lives and give it direction. . We want to be more attractive to others. Develop successful habits which are allow you to land girls. Learn to feel confident etc. Dive in the book and change your outlook on life forever. Learn to kick ass.

Find Your Purpose. What do you want to be remembered for? Live your life like a movie. There is no need to aim for an end goal. However, it is important to keep working towards a goal and challenge yourself. This will make you appear attractive to the ladies. You must communicate your journey that you are embarking on. Try to make it seem that you have noble goals and are making the world a better place. It will show that you don’t need a woman to find happiness. The trick is not to seem needy. ‘Are you showing girls that you need their attention or are you on a purpose when you are around the females that you aren’t attracted to?’ The trick is to work hard on your purpose. Even if you are fat, but if you show that you go to the gym, people will start to respect you. If you love life, you will be able to attract the right people in your life. Write down your goals and push all the way. The difficult games and challenges are the ones you should strive for. Your purpose should be specific in nature and it should be documented. It must be measurable. It is okay to listen to others. These people must be congruent to your purpose.

The easiest things you can do are being nice to people, being confident in yourself, staying motivated and disciplined towards your goals, smiling, and being so happy and grateful that you are even fucking alive! – Patrick Withrow

Find Your Environment. Jot down the names of the people you surround yourself with. Learn to defeat your fears. The author loves stand-up comedy and it is something that he feels everyone should try. I realized that I wasn’t spending enough time with others and building on relationships. There needs to be a balance. Be completely present and listen to the girl. Girls want a warrior in their lives. Eventually, I realized creating online businesses saved the most time. I took a degree and wanted to pursue my dream. There is always a sense of ‘incompletion’ in your life. Give 5 things to work on this year. Only focus on 5 aspects of your life. Write your goals and dreams down. Money is always not enough. Learn to think about your mortality. Think about the dreams you had when you were young. Life is short and you need to be present every day and pay attention to every details.

The Hero in You. This chapter is about conquering your fears. It is okay to have fears. Facing your fears is one way to allow us to grow. The more you experience, the better you will be. How many hours are you dedicating to your dream? Exercising early in the morning (5am) will set off your day on the right footing. Tackle difficult tasks from 6 to 8am every day. Accomplishing a difficult task early in the day gives you a boost of confidence. You definitely do not want to be trapped in a cycle of tiredness and lethargy. Many people fail to appreciate how short like is and how precious life can be. You can be anything you want. If you start believing in yourself, you will realize that things are different.

Get Your Sensei’s. Surround yourself with people like coaches and mentors. They will be able to help you. The stronger your identity will be if you are able to get help from others. Always read more and have the thirst for more information. Enjoy the process so that you can be a better person. Never be afraid of rejection. Sometimes, the girl could be going through an emotional phase. You need to be consistent in what you are good at. Learn to create the right mindset. Look deep down to learn about yourself. Make your personality so appealing that others will like you instantly. Be positive in every aspect of your life. There will always be haters, but you should not bother about them. You should not bother trying to control and change people. The only one you can change is yourself. Go to the places where you can maximize the chance of meeting girls you like. If you are drunk, girls will avoid you. Therefore, it is smarter to go sober. Do what your heart wants you to do. Make strong habits and enjoy life. Focus and be great now. Wake up early and be focused and do the difficult things. Exercising in the morning increases serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. Just wake up early. It takes a full 66 days to make it a habit.

Do the opposite of what everyone else is doing. Pave your own path and rule your life because when you do that chicks will want to know more about you. They will want to be by your side because they will feel secure in your presence. – Patrick Withrow

Quit the Bad Habits. Do not be rude when eating. Do not pick up smoking, drinking and all that. The 7 habits to avoid are 1) cigarettes; 2) chewing tobacco; 3) poor hygiene; 4) poor listening skills; 5) biting your nails; 6) eating sugary, unhealthy and fatty foods; 7) unmotivated.

Online dating and the art of body language. If you want to play the online game, spend some money as it guarantees that the girl will be more serious. However, the author feels that there are many girls on it who have just undergone break-ups. The best way is to present and understand life as it is now. Stop being addicted to your phone. It helps to detach yourself from technology and be more involved in the environment instead. Read more books which can help you to grow. Females love intellectual guys. Take note of the following bad body languages: 1) arms crossed; 2) feet pointed away from you; 3) rubbing her arm; 4) pinching the bottom of her ear; 5) poor eye contact. Some great cues to look out for are: 1) bambi eyes; 2) playing with hair; 3) they touch you; 4) if she smiles. Mirror her body language to have a better chance of connecting with her. Even if you are not confident, act that you are. You need to be cautious of online dating as there might be weird people on the site. Please be wary.

There are billions of females in the world, you are going to get rejected, but it’s a numbers game. The more opportunities a person gives himself the more potential success a man will have. – Patrick Withrow

Fear is a Portal into Your Best Life. Practise meeting women on a daily basis. Never rush into a relationship or you will regret it. Try to go after the good looking girls first. Continue to progress and meet new girls. Remember your purpose in life. If you do not feel sufficiently attracted to her, then you need to move on.

If you are confident in every aspect of your life, you are going to win so much. If you are confident in your career path, your health, using your time effectively, living your life to the fullest, she will be so attracted to you. – Patrick Withrow