Dating Tips 109

Left Swipes and Love by College Magazine

A Millennial’s Guide to Hookups, Dating and Tinder

Introduction. You are in college and you might be curious. The book will dish out tips when using Tinder.

Getting the Girl (or Guy). Why do jerks seem to get the girls? Dennis Procopio is an expert in life coaching and will answer some of your questions. You must talk to a girl who you find is attractive. Creativity is emotional Viagra to a girl. You need to be comfortable in an area where you are not. You need to know what you like. The trick is to do something you like and join an interest group. Confidence is king. Instead of trying to impress them, guys should figure out what they want. Many men feel that they are rude and not creative. However, most men are okay. Start by performing small acts of kindness to show your love for the girl. Lose the fear. Be emotionally honest and be physically intimate towards her. Get involved in a sport if you are weak. Man up and go dancing.

If you are really a man and you want to prove how manly you are, then man up and go dancing. Do things that challenge you to stop taking yourself so seriously. Learn how to go out and have fun. – Dennis Procopio

Women respond to the following in this order: confidence, talent and honesty. Money is like having a big dick. Money and a big dick make you feel confident and women like confidence, but they don’t really care about it. – Dennis Procopio

I lost my boxers but found a girlfriend. I hated and didn’t know how to dance but I forced myself to go. I was stuck with a girl who didn’t know how to dance as well. We decided to practice together. Her name was Liz. Soon, I mustered courage to ask her out. I brought her to meet some of my friends. We danced at the fountain, almost naked. I lost my boxers halfway. I was forced to go commando back home. Never go skinny dipping on campus.

Ten ways to Get into Her Pants. Step 1 is to be a gentleman. The trick is not to overthink your approach and simply talk about anything. You can start off by saying ‘I love your glasses….Hey, were you in XXX class last semester?’ Ask a girl if she wants to dance and do not grind her from behind. Learn to ask the right questions. Do not simply fire questions, and get creative with your follow-up. Try to establish common ground as soon as possible. Try to avoid awkward silences. As a guy, you are supposed to carry the conversation. The trick is to answer your own question too. Laugh at her jokes as this is incredibly sexy. Sneak in some physical touch and grab her waist. The arms, shoulders and neck are okay. Ensure eye contact during the date.

Approach the whole group first, but then hone in on one girl you want. You better be standing next to the girl you want, too. – Unknown

Eye contact is a big one that gentlemen tend to overlook (pun intended). It makes us more comfortable, shows confidence, and is literally the easiest way to convey interest: My eyes are on you, and only you, for a reason. – Unknown

A Bro’s Guide to Picking Up Girls. Vinny and Luke Vaillancourt are known as V-Squared on YouTube and they are experts at love. Use social media to your advantage. Add fun facts to your conversation. Read the person’s Tinder profile so that your conversation won’t be so shallow. Our generation doesn’t do pick-up lines. Please hold off discussing sex on your first conversation. Cheesy lines won’t work well. Go under the surface to get under the sheets. Always be bold. Try to be friends with her first. In a new college, take the chance to sit and know people who are alone.

I Kissed a Girl and I Liked it a Little Too Much. It is important to stay safe and not get pregnant. Always carry condoms with you. Girls liked to kiss each other back in college. However, this time it was different. I really liked her. Happiness was the only thing that mattered.

Sex and Hooking Up

Ten Sex Facts Everyone Should Know, But Doesn’t. There are many forms to sex. Technology has created a new era of sex. It is very unlikely that both you and your partner will experience orgasm at the same time. Women are much less likely to experience an orgasm as they need stimulation from the clitoris. Porn creates bad expectations of sex. Sex gets weird in college. College is a time of experimentation. Less people are dating because they can have sex. Thinking about your grandma during sex won’t make you last longer. Learn from your own experiences. Women are actually very knowledgeable about sex. Men tend to be more confident due to their egos. Your expectations shape your sexual experience.

The Truth about My Casual Hookup. To love someone, it takes time to know their quirks. Dating is very different from a hookup. It is good to set it straight from the start, and know whether someone wants to date you or is just looking for a fling.

College doesn’t have to be all about hookups- being in a meaningful relationship with someone you can call your best friend is just as rewarding. – Unknown

What Movies Don’t Teach you About Sex and Dating in College. The fact is that many people are still virgins in college and haven’t been in any relationships. Not everyone can just have sex and not have romantic feelings for that person. Some guys are simply douchebags who just want to pump and dump. People in college and very gossipy and they end up talking a lot about the same guys in school.

You can make it whatever you want. If you want monogamy, then cool. If you want to just mess around, you can do that too. It’s like pasta: You can have spaghetti, spaghetti with meatballs, fettuccine or whatever. At the end of the day it’s still pasta. You can just do whatever. – Michael Junior

The Morning After: Getting Rid of Your One-Night Stand. You might wake up and find a guy lying on your bed. How do you get rid of him? Make up an excuse and say you need to work on a project. Escort them home and give them a free ride. Just be blunt and say no. Create a medical emergency. Get emotional and cry. The guy will surely leave.

Ten Lines that Instantly Scream Friend Zone. Instead of texting each other for hours on end, look out for the following cues (10 phrases). 1) I value our friendship too much; 2) I love you, bro; 3) ‘Let’s go bra shopping; 4) ‘I wish I could find someone just like you.’; 5) ‘You’re like a sibling to me.’; 6) ‘Burp’; 7) I want to explore my options; 8) ‘You’re too nice for me’; 9) ‘Can I bring my friend with me?’ 10) I’m so happy we’re best friends. If you hear any of the above, you know you have been friend-zoned.

Online Dating 101

Modern Dating: Is Romance Dead? In the past, men married at 23 and women at 20. Now, why do we engage in Netflix and chill? Many people nowadays want instant gratification and want hookups more than dates. Divorce rates are rising. We are also more afraid to commit. We are afraid to settle because the person might not be the right one. Being in too many bad relationships might scar you. Why do you need to date when you can get instant gratification? Do you want a serious commitment or casual fling? The choice is wholly on you to decide.

If an individual we’re interested in brings too much baggage into the mix, we adapt the “there’s more fish in the sea” mentality and move on. The ‘through the thick and thin’ concept is overshadowed by the realm of possibilities we have with sites like OkCupid. – Unknown

The 6 Commandments for Sliding into a Girl’s DM. Social media allows you to meet people whom you have never seen before. Confidence is the key. You must feel that you are good enough for her. Find out about her background and do some research. Learn to be direct. If you want her number or a date, simply ask. The worst answer you will get is no. Do not send or ask for nudes. That will definitely not work. Please proofread before sending.

Don’t message her on FB, then follow it up with a message on Instagram. If the girl doesn’t reply to your first message, she isn’t going to respond to your second or 69th one either so wait for a response or try again once you’ve met her in person. – Unknown

On the Unfounded Fear of Online Dating. Online dating can actually work if used correctly. I found the right guy on Tinder. He was extremely good looking although the problem was that he lived far away. Online dating allows you to gain exposure to people outside your social circle.

Whether you’re looking for a relationship or a casual hookup, you have to set boundaries-meaning open communication about your needs and expectations. But that’s true for all relationships, online or not. – Unknown

Why I’m not Embarrassed about Tinder. Online dating is very common nowadays. Tinder is like real-life flirting. It is like window-shopping based on people’s looks. Tinder is less hookup oriented as compared to Grindr. The largest advertisement in Tinder is your face. Learn to embrace the way Tinder works. It can lead to successes. Sometimes, you might even meet mutual friends on the app. Once I succeeded, I deleted Tinder. The right guy might just be a swipe away.

We see someone we’re physically attracted to, and we make a move. What we do on Tinder is the same thing we do at the bar, except with Tinder you need permission from the other person to approach. – Unknown

Making it Last

Ten Gifts Your Girlfriend Actually Wants. Get her a thoughtful photo album or a scrapbook. Get something for her from Pinterest. Go for concerts together. Explore etsy for handmade crafts. Get her a mix CD with her favorite music. Get her fashionable gloves. Go for groupon deals. If you are in a long term relationship, give her a surprise visit. Choose an item from the Amazon list.

Ten Gifts Your Boyfriend Actually Wants. Get him food that is healthy. Get him some household items or some sentimental DIY decorations. You might also try special edition DVD collections. Pay him a surprise visit. Buy theme park tickets for him. Understand what his guilty pleasures are. Bring him for an outdoor excursion and go hiking together. Get him the latest gear. Buy clothes.

Long Distance Love: Making it Work. LDRs are usually tough. It is great if you can find an on-campus couple. Handle communication by using on-line platforms. Use FaceTime. There is a need to plan when to communicate too. It is not simply good to be spontaneous when dealing with communication issues. Also, remember to devote time to improving your social life in school. You must handle trust issues. If there are no complete trust, it won’t work. However, do remember to give each other space. Ignore the haters who think LDR won’t work. Send random love texts and be creative about it. If you are good, LRDs can work.

Keeping Your Sanity in a College Relationship. Choose a date night so that even if you are busy, you can look forward to date nights. Do understand that plans might change. Quantity does not equal quality. Detach from the hip. One or two days away from one another won’t kill you. Be well rounded. A lack of social life will affect your health and your relationship. Read books together as that is sexy. Some form of planning for activities and dates are useful. Don’t keep using the phone to text. Learn to stay away from your phone to experience life. Staying honest, assertive and open is the key.

But at the end of the day, communication will always be the key to a successful relationship at any stage of the game. Even if you don’t know what to say or how to say it, opening up to your partner is always a good thing. – Unknown

Break Ups and Exes

Five Signs You Need to Move On. How do you know which relationships can be mended? These are signs when you should move on. If you start making excuses for their bad behavior, it’s a bad sign. If you ask him how he is and he doesn’t reply, it’s time to move on. If he starts to ignore problems and not communicate, it’s over. Not committing to future dates or plans is also a no-no. If his family and friends doesn’t like him, it’s bad too. If the above scenarios happen, you need to understand that there is nothing much you can do and you should move on.

Can you stay friends with your ex? Many people don’t believe in being friends with exes as it will never be the same again. Some people still believe in platonic relationships. However, do not rush into being friends right away. There are no clear guidelines as every situation is different.

Finding Love in a Hopeless Place

How to Show You’re Serious about Love. Understand your limits. Watch your tinder account. Please get off your phone. Most people are bolder online than in real life. Remember why your ex sucked. Be clear about what you want and what your romantic goals are. Dating around is good in the sense that you can learn about your preferences. Overall, one should embrace love. Never be afraid to love again.

If you want a relationship, don’t post pictures where you look like a party girl. If you want more than a casual hookup, leave some room for mystery and don’t display your goods for all to see. You get what you put into it.’ – Lauren Frances

The biggest mistake is dating people that don’t have the same values or goals and magically expect people to change. – Lauren Frances

I’m not saying falling in love and being in love is easy. But I am saying it’s worth it. – Lauren Frances

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Dating Tips 108

How to find a Girlfriend Through Online Dating by Blaine Bond

The Complete Guide to Finding Love, Sex and Happiness in the 21st century. Thre are limited places to go to find someone suitable. Online dating is a fairly new phenomenon. No one is born perfect. You just need to find someone you are comfortable with.

So You Want to Be In a Relationship…Right? What are you looking for? Short term or long term. Think about what you are looking for carefully. There are also perks for being single. Is your professional life stable already? Write down exactly what you are looking for in a women. You must know exactly what your beliefs are. This will save you a lot of time. It is important to find the dating site that will best meet your needs.

Finding a Dating Site that Elicits Cheers Instead of an Impending Sense of Doom. eHarmony is a good site. You can use this for serious relationships. is one of the most popular sites out there. However, you have to pay if you want to communicate with anyone. These sites allow you to indicate what you want to see in a partner. ‘Plenty of Fish’ is another viable option. Ok Cupid is one of the best free sites around. Other sites include Craigslist, Zoosk, Chemistry, Friend Finder. Always try and expand your social circles.

Creating an Awesome Profile That Will Make You Look Cool Rather than Weird and Desperate. It is important to post a clear photo which is decent looking. Do not try too hard and post a topless photo of yourself. The photo should be recent. Try not to wear shades. Go for photo-shoots and find your best possible photo to post. Post photos from crazy vacations. Post photos where you are actively engaged in activities. Let women know you like kids. Add captions to photos. Go for positive tag-lines. Browse quote websites and find something suitable. Ensure that what you say must be sincere and something you mean. If you don’t have much to say about yourself, get your friends to chip in and give your ideas. Talk about your favourite activities and your job. If you have a religion, you could mention it too. A unique description will help you stand out from the crowd. Note that your profile should not be excessively long. It is good to fill up the education section too. Education is something girls value. As for income, you should skip this section. Spirituality is an important consideration and you should fill it up. As for political beliefs, it’s your choice. It is important to have activities. Do not lie about height and weight. Above all, it is important to be genuine and truthful in your profile.

Another great option is to simply talk about what you do for a living and your favourite activities. Work and hobbies or other favourite activities are a great way to get to know more about someone and find out if you have shared interests. – Blaine Bond

The Types of Women You Meet Online. The first type is the divorcee. The next type could be the my-job-isn’t-great-for-meeting-guys chick. You might meet the real hot girl. However, it is important to understand that you should not simply compliment her looks. Do not address an older woman as a cougar as it is very rude indeed. Some girls are commitment crazy. Some of them are cat fishes.

Talking to Women Online. The first step is to be literate. Do not use short-forms or net speak unless you know her well. Patience is important when dating. Be respectful when asking questions over the site. Do not bombard her with questions. When you ask something, remember to answer how it applies to yourself. Some safe topics for discussion includes travel, school, food, work, concerts, siblings. Avoid topics like fetish, why you hate your family, affairs you had, sob stories, your ex-relationships. Try not to compliment her on her looks. This might come off as being cheesy and a pick-up line. In general, women loved being asked questions. If you add her on Facebook, your chances will improve. You might even want to add her on Instagram, Pinterest, Youtube etc. Learn to take the slow route. Try and progress to phone call and text if possible. At a minimum, you should chat for about a week before you suggest meeting face-to-face. On a first date, try to avoid meeting for drinks. This might send her the wrong signal that you want to get her drunk so that you can take advantage of her. A coffee date is a good idea. Eat breath mints.

Keep in mind that if she doesn’t respond, it’s not the best idea to continue messaging her. There’s nothing wrong with sending a follow-up message, as it is entirely possible she didn’t read it yet or hasn’t been on the site in a few days. If she still doesn’t respond to your second email, she probably isn’t interested, so move on. – Blaine Bond

To date multiple women at once, or not to date multiple women at once, that is the question. Although you may not get caught, it can be tiring. If you are interested in one girl, drop the rest. If you want a good time, it might be possible to date multiple girls at once. Talking to multiple women might speed up the process.

While it makes sense to talk to more than one woman rather than putting all your eggs in one proverbial basket, it’s still a good idea to try to establish a connection with each of them and see how it goes. Eventually you’ll have to settle on one and let the others down gently. – Blaine Bond

Nine Short Quizzes to Help You Out. A good message could be something like this: ‘Hi, I read your profile and I feel we have a few similar interests. How was your weekend? Do you [pick a hobby from her profile] often?’ It is good to ask questions about her work. It is not appropriate to bring the girl home on the first date. Coffee in the afternoon would seem good. To start a conversation, you can say ‘Have you been to this place before?’ Never criticize or complain when you meet her. Project an image that you have an awesome life. Always pay for the first date. Do not compliment her on her looks that make you seem perverted. It is okay to go out without carrying any accessories. You must impress on your first date if you want to still see her on the second date.

The Pitfalls of Online Dating and How to Cope. Don’t despair and continue looking. Don’t be bitter if she rejects you. Treat it as a learning lesson as you get to improve and understand better what you like in a girl. Serial dating can seem tiring. If you are jaded, take a long trip to recharge. You must seem energetic during the date. If she harasses you, report her on the app or block her.

Part of dating, whether online or not, is rejection. Should the rejection become more commonplace than actual interaction, think about your approach and how you can modify it. You may be coming on too strong, or too pervy. Remember to be respectful and genuine, and eventually the right girl will respond. – Blaine Bond